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INFJ Relationships with Other MBTI Types

The INFJ type – The Sage (A.K.A The Advocate) – is the rarest personality type. Making up just 1.5 % of the U.S population, these people have a unique combination of traits. Very intuitive, sensitive and empathetic, they can read a situation without needing many words to figure it out. People often regard them as mysterious and even mystical — but does that mean that they can have harmonious relationships with everyone? This article will take a closer look at the INFJ’s relationship compatibility with the other personality types. Other questions that will be answered include:

  • What is the INFJ partner like?
  • What is the best match for an INFJ?
  • Which types make the best friends for INFJs?
  • Which types have a good working dynamic with INFJs?
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INFJ Relationships and Dating

The INFJ personality type takes their personal relationships very seriously. They place a lot of importance on establishing meaningful relationships, which sometimes can be a difficult task given how introverted they are. Making connections with others requires talking to them first, which can be a challenge for the reserved INFJs. Something else that can become an issue is their high standard when it comes to the people they surround themselves with — both friends and especially romantic partners. When it comes to romance, INFJs are willing to wait a considerable amount of time, until they find their “perfect” soulmate. Casual dating and relationships aren’t things that INFJs like to partake in. However, when they find their people, INFJs are extremely loyal, appreciative and establish a deep connection.

This sense of idealism when it comes to human relationships is deeply rooted in who INFJs are as people. Their preferences and cognitive functions help shape their traits and characteristics, which play a big part in determining their behavior. For example, their Introverted Intuition, which is their Dominant cognitive function, helps guide them through relationships, because of their heightened Intuition.

INFJ Dating

Given INFJs sincerity and depth of personality, it’s no wonder that they make fantastic partners. This personality type has the amazing ability to make others feel heard and understood, and never takes their romantic relationship for granted. They are aware that they need to value the other person daily, which they are eager to do, unconditionally. INFJs are able to create very deep, almost spiritual bonds with their partners, which they take very seriously. To them, being so intimate with another person isn’t all about physical interaction, but they perceive it in a way to share mind, body and soul. They also acknowledge that a relationship isn’t a passive commitment, but a way to learn, grow and develop both sides as time passes by.

INFJ Best Match

The best matches for INFJs for a romantic partner are ENFJs, INFPs and INTJs. A partnership with any of these personality types can make INFJs feel very much at ease, as they are united by a common mindset, while still being able to learn from each other. Even if they appear worlds apart from INFJs, this is a good thing, as both sides have plenty of opportunities to grow in the relationship and see the world from a completely different point of view from their own.

Some other types that pair up nicely with INFJs are: ENFP and INTP.

INFJ Compatibility

INFJs are so intuitive and perceptive that it’s easy for them to pick the right topic to discuss with any other Myers-Briggs personality type. However, some types aren’t attracted to their quiet mysticism and can easily find them stubborn, boring and too mature. Typically, INFJs get along better with Intuitive types, rather than Sensing ones. The rest of the article addresses The Sage’s relationship compatibility with each other MBTI type — what works and what doesn’t in terms of romance, friendship and work.

INFJ Compatibility Chart

To illustrate INFJ’s compatibility with other personality types, we have made a chart, divided by each temperament type. The color coding for the chart is as follows:

Blue – types that are most similar to The Sage in terms of values, interests and life philosophy.
Green – types that are quite similar to The Sage but have intriguing differences, which can produce a healthy relationship with plenty of personality growth opportunities.
Yellow – types that are somewhat similar to The Sage and could be compatible with them, but some work will be needed to make things work.
Red – types that are poles apart from The Sage and are likely to clash with their personality. Relationships between these types will require a lot of work.

INFJ Compatibility Chart

INFJ and ESTJ

These two personality types fall in the “red zone” in the compatibility chart. They don’t have much in common and their widely contrasting views on life can cause friction between them.

Relationship 

A relationship between these two personality types could be very rocky, because of their differing views of the world. The idealist, soft-spoken INFJ and their tendency to daydream might not sit well with the grounded, matter-of-fact ESTJ – known as The Administrator or Executive. They have very different methods of dealing with conflict as well. INFJs tend to avoid conflict and try to resolve it with sympathy and empathy. ESTJs on the other hand seek more practical solutions and are resilient to counselling. These two types have very big differences in their levels of emotional sensitivity. However, these mismatched characteristics could be beneficial — they inspire individuals to grow and see other points of view.

Friendship

INFJs and ESTJs have varying values when it comes to friendship, too. INFJs are much better at providing emotional support to their friends and prefer to connect with them on a deeper level. ESTJs on the other hand are more practical and would be quick to offer a logical solution to a problem, rather than try to empathize with the other person. To an INFJ this can come across as cold-hearted and insensitive and, as a deeply sensitive type, they wouldn’t be able to fully comprehend this type of reaction. If they try to, however, this contrast in values can benefit both sides.

At Work

INFJs and ESTJs can make for stellar work partners. They both like planning ahead and having a sense of structure in their work. They are principled and take both their responsibilities and deadlines very seriously. They both like to be left alone to do their job in their own unique way, however ESTJs have a tendency to micromanage. This can discourage an INFJ, as they can feel as if their work is being criticized as not being good enough. This could cause some frustration if both sides don’t take the time to adjust to a working balance that allows each of them to prosper.

INFJ and ESFJ 

These two types fall in the “yellow zone” of the compatibility chart. They have some similarities in their characters, but problems may occur as they don’t balance each other out and may decide to ignore potential issues.

Relationship 

INFJ and ESFJ – The Caregiver (A.K.A Consul) – are both very caring, sensitive and warm personality types, who don’t have trouble expressing how they feel. On the contrary — these expressions are very important to them. This can build a very harmonious relationship, in which conflict rarely occurs — neither INFJs nor ESFJs enjoy confrontations and will try to avoid them as best they can. However, this can result in them consciously avoiding talking about difficult but necessary topics. Both would be willing to continue the relationship long after they both can feel that it’s lost.

Friendship

These two types are very committed friends. ESFJs won’t hesitate to go out of their way in order to help their friend out with whatever they can. INFJs feel the same way and are very willing to reciprocate these acts of friendship. A problem that both types can face is that sometimes they are willing to go to unhealthy lengths to make those they hold dear happy. They both have a lot to learn from each other, mainly in their differing Sensing/Intuitive preferences. ESFJs can show INFJs how to be more grounded and set in reality, while the latter can show them that there is nothing wrong with daring to dream about unrealistic things, every once in a while.

At Work

ESFJs are good at focusing on details, whereas INFJs often see the big picture and practice high levels of originality and creativity. Both personality types care about their colleagues on a deeper level (given that they are Feeling types) and bring a sense of empathy to the workplace. ESFJs complement many of an INFJ’s weaknesses — they are more grounded and can help them keep away from forming unrealistic ideals. This could be very helpful for the idealistic INFJ, but micromanaging them too much isn’t a good idea. In return, INFJs can help ESFJs find more creative solutions to problems that they themselves would never have thought about.

INFJ and ISTJ

These two types fall in the “yellow zone” of the compatibility chart. They have some similarities in their characters, but problems may occur as they don’t balance each other out and may decide to ignore potential issues.

Relationship 

INFJ and ISTJ – The Archivist (A.K.A Logistician) – are a rare romantic pairing. They don’t have much in common and don’t share any cognitive functions in their individual stacks. The only thing that unites them slightly are their Introverted and Judging preferences. They can find common language around their mutual orderliness, dependability and sense of calm introversion. However, ISTJs are often very set in their ways and don’t like to think outside the box. This can clash with the INFJ’s creativity and can make them feel unappreciated. ISTJs on the other hand will struggle to make sense of the INFJ behavior, which they perceive as highly irrational.

Friendship

INFJs and ISTJs make unlikely friends — even if they are both Judging Introverts. Both types share a common sense of responsibility, however ISTJs are notoriously inflexible. They like following the rules and acting according to an established set of regulations. They don’t like going out of their way to try out new things or approach a problem from a different perspective. There is a big difference in how these two make decisions, which can cause them to become impatient with each other. ISTJs are also known to be very judgmental and demanding companions, which isn’t something that the more sensitive INFJ can tolerate for long.

At Work

INFJs and ISTJs have a similar approach to work (in some aspects, at least). They both are methodical, organized and have a strong desire to meet expectations. However, INFJs are more creative and dare to think outside the box, while ISTJs like to find one way that works for them and then stick to it faithfully. On the surface, it may seem as if they could complement each other in a good way, however when put to the test, this can prove to be very difficult. There is one thing both types can agree on — and this is how good it feels to work alone and how frustrating it is to be micromanaged.

INFJ and ISFJ

These two types fall in the “blue zone” of the compatibility chart. They share nearly identical world views, values, interests and life philosophy. They can also relate well to each other.

Relationship 

INFJs and ISFJs – The Defender – are very similar to one another. They both take their romantic relationships very seriously and are alert to satisfying their partners’ needs. Given their Introvert nature, both types take some time to fully trust the other side and reveal their true colors. When this happens, they will discover an abundance of kindness, respect and warm acceptance from their partner. However, they should be careful, as both INFJs and ISFJs tend to have trouble leaving a relationship that no longer works. Both leaving their partner and being left by them causes them great distress and hurts their self-esteem.

Friendship

As friends, INFJs and ISFJs are likely to find a kindred spirit in each other. They are very accommodating to other people’s feelings — including each other’s. They are likely to appreciate their mutual quiet and reserve, which means they won’t force each other to spend time socializing. Both these personality types are good at bringing people together and finding a way to compromise when conflict arises, which makes them understand one another on a deeper level. They are also willing to give the other person as much alone time as they need — and they don’t have to ponder much on why they require it, in order to function properly.

At Work

INFJs and ISFJs both want their workplace to be in tune with their values and to give them an opportunity to serve society as a whole. For ISFJs this translates into conventional careers, where they have a hands-on attention to detail, while INFJs are happiest when they get to practice their creativity and intuition. They also prefer to be involved in long-term projects which can significantly impact the world they live in, for the better. Both types dislike conflict and stress, and will do their best to avoid them. However, while an ISFJ will keep working hard despite the stress, hoping that their situation will get better, an INFJ will eventually look for a better place to work.

INFJ and ESTP

These two personality types fall in the “red zone” in the compatibility chart. They don’t have much in common and their widely contrasting views on life can cause friction between them.

Relationship 

INFJs and ESTPs – The Daredevil (A.K.A Entrepreneur) – are a very unlikely couple. They have very different needs when it comes to romantic relationships, which the respective partner can struggle to satisfy. ESTPs aren’t very emotionally intense, unlike INFJs, and they tend to avoid deep conversations. They are very in-the-moment kind of people and don’t idealize love and their relationships. This contrasts with what the INFJ values; they take their connections to others very seriously. If they face disapproval of this sort in the face of their significant other, they can end up getting very hurt and upset.

Friendship

INFJs and ESTPs also make for curious friends, as it’s very unlikely that these two types even meet. INFJs tend to keep to themselves and enjoy spending time alone, while ESTPs can be found where the action is. INFJs avoid very social situations, which reduces their chances to interact with each other. However, if they do, ESTPs will undoubtedly be impressed by the INFJ’s strong intuition. They are likely to stare at them with disbelief when they realize that most of their inner hunches prove to be right. To a Sensing type such as the ESTP this is borderline mysterious.

At Work

INFJs and ESTPs are very different in the workplace as well. INFJs are more compassionate and people oriented, while ESTPs are more matter-of-fact and take a practical approach to decision making, paying little attention to how others feel. They have a balanced and pragmatic way of thinking, which is drenched in charisma, making others feel drawn to them despite their periodic episodes of insensitivity. ESTPs can help teach INFJs how to stand up more for themselves and put boundaries around how the feelings of others affect them. These two types have a lot of differences, but this creates plenty of potential for them to balance each other out and become a very efficient team.

INFJ and ESFP

These two personality types fall in the “red zone” in the compatibility chart. They don’t have much in common and their widely contrasting views on life can cause friction between them.

Relationship 

INFJs and ESFPs – The Entertainer – are miles away from each other when it comes to core values and beliefs. Their difference in energy levels is very dramatic and can cause them big issues if they don’t find a balance. INFJs are likely to want to stay at home most of the time, which ESFPs aren’t very likely to fully comprehend. They can also get annoyed by their partner’s tendency to daydream and plan ahead. ESFPs are more flexible and prefer to keep their options open, and are very grounded in reality. And even though they have so little in common, both are united around their Feeling preference, which allows them to be a bit more sensitive to one another.

Friendship

Friendships are much easier to maintain than romantic relationships and have more room for error and forgiveness. If these two manage to accept each other for who they are and not try to change the other, they have a lot of potential to balance out each other’s weaknesses. INFJs enjoy reading people in-depth and gaining a better understanding of their inner motivations, whereas ESFPs are like open books. ESFPs have natural people skills, which makes them enjoy the spotlight more, which an INFJ can appreciate and enjoy from the sidelines. In order for this friendship to work, both parties need to relate to each other in a mature way.

At Work

Both INFJs and ESFPs bring a sense of compassion and approachability in the workplace. They care about the wellbeing of everyone they work with and try their best to create a pleasant work environment. However, while INFJs are more creative and like planning and organizing, ESFPs are attentive to details and enjoy flexibility in the workplace, which allows them to adapt. Both types can benefit greatly from each other — ESFPs can learn how to set personal goals and see them through, and INFJs can learn how to adapt to unexpected situations.

INFJ and ISTP

These two personality types fall in the “red zone” of the compatibility chart. They don’t have much in common and their widely contrasting views on life can cause friction between them.

Relationship 

INFJs and ISTPs – The Tinkerer (A.K.A Virtuosos) – make for a complicated relationship. INFJs are sensitive dreamers, with deep intuition, who often predict events before they happen. They also like planning and organization, and their environment is often orderly. All of these are amiss with the ISTP, who make very calculated and practical decisions, based purely on facts and logic, rather than feelings. If an ISTP tries to confront his INFJ partner about these things, they may come across as insensitive and can even hurt the INFJ feelings deeply. What’s more, ISTPs can find it very difficult to keep up with the emotional expressiveness of INFJs, which is likely to exhaust them greatly.

Friendship

Even though INFJs and ISTPs are united by their mutual introvertedness and tendency to keep to themselves and not socialize, they are unlikely friends. ISTPs are realists and prefer action to simple words, while INFJs can indulge in daydreaming and speculating about future possibilities for prolonged periods of time. The INFJ’s focus on emotions is also confusing to logic-driven ISTPs. This can make it very difficult for them to relate to one another in critical moments. Ideally, these types can learn from their differences and use them to grow individually, but sometimes they can find the rift between them too great.

At Work

Again, these two types are very different from one another — especially in the workplace. While INFJs are careful planners and like for everything to be predetermined and organized, ISTPs prefer to improvise and keep their options open. Nothing gets them down as much as following rules and regulations. ISTPs are also good with rational thinking and solving problems in a practical way, while INFJs are better off as creative innovators, supercharged with empathy. Their differences regarding their perception of work can work well in filling the gaps in their expertise.

INFJ and ISFP

These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have quite a lot of similarities between each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another.

Relationship 

INFJs and ISFPs – The Adventurer – can make a very good pairing. They both are sensitive, supporting and enjoy aiding others. They both value their freedom greatly, which means that they are unlikely to try to control each other. However, INFJs are more conceptual thinkers and future oriented, while ISFPs are more present oriented and like to talk about relevant topics, set in reality. This difference in thinking allows for a lot of growth in both types, if they accept each other’s differences as a good and beneficial thing. Luckily, being supportive as they are, they would likely be willing to make an effort to understand their partner’s point of view.

Friendship

These two types can also be dedicated friends. Initially ISFPs tend to be reserved toward people they don’t know, but INFJs can fully understand that behavior, as they are the same. Both types value their freedom and they can easily recognize this in each other as a positive trait. Another trait that brings together INFJs and ISFPs is their non-judgmental nature and willingness to accept people for who they are. They appreciate when they themselves are not judged back, which means that this friendship is likely to be a harmonious one.

At Work

Both INFJs and ISFPs bring empathy and compassion to the workplace. They find it easy to connect to their colleagues and understand them on a deeper level. However, INFJs are more adept at finding solutions to complex problems and like organizing the working process, given their Judging preference. On the other hand, ISFPs are more flexible and can offer a practical approach to any situation. Given the differences between these two, they can make a great team, as they are able to complement each other’s working styles. They can also approach a problem from different perspectives and come up with the perfect solution to it by combining their different ways of thinking.

INFJ and ENTJ

These two types fall in the “yellow zone” of the compatibility chart. They have some similarities in their characters, but problems may occur as they don’t balance each other out and may decide to ignore potential issues.

Relationship 

INFJs and ENTJs  – The General (A.K.A Commander) – can be a great romantic pairing — with some work required. Both types enjoy intellectual stimulation, which gives them plenty of things to talk about. However, INFJs enjoy knowledge for the sake of knowledge itself, while ENTJs seek to know things because of their practical use. Another big difference between them is that while INFJs expect people to act in a considerate and socially responsible way, ENTJs expect reasonable behavior. Even if this can be problematic, they can still be a good pairing if they don’t judge their differences and learn from each other’s strengths.

Friendship

As friendships generally require less effort and compromise than romantic relationships, INFJs and ENTJs have a better chance of making it work as friends. They are still quite different from one another, but there are some things that unite them. They can share many stimulating conversations and are able to quickly analyze complex situations, relying on their intuition to solve them. However, INFJs should be wary of ENTJs rough edges — they are blunt and have little tolerance for mistakes. In some cases this may hurt the more sensitive INFJs, if they haven’t accepted their ENTJ friend for who they are.

At Work

The INFJ-ENTJ team has the potential of working like a well-oiled machine. Both types are creative problem solvers with highly developed intuition, who enjoy coming up with innovative solutions. However, ENTJs are much more career-oriented than INFJs and aspire to gain a leadership position. They are also very competitive, which isn’t a trait that INFJs share. These two can complement each other in a nice way, as INFJs can teach ENTJs how to be more socially sensitive, as this is something they aren’t good at all. In return, ENTJs can push INTJs into expressing their thoughts and preferences more openly to others.

INFJ and ENTP

These two types fall in the “yellow zone” of the compatibility chart. They have some similarities in their characters, but problems may occur as they don’t balance each other out and may decide to ignore potential issues.

Relationship 

It’s unlikely for an INFJ and an ENTP – The Defender – to have an immediate connection. They both are cautious about approaching people, as INFJs are reserved by nature and ENTPs are simply conservative about commitments. If they do feel attracted to each other, this would likely be because of their mutual love for deep and meaningful conversations. However, with this pairing problems may arise because of their conflicting styles on dealing with stronger emotions. ENTPs are much more rational, which can come across as cold and distant to the INFJ, while they themselves are very sensitive and in tune with their emotions, which ENTPs can perceive as too emotional and impractical.

Friendship

If these two types can acknowledge and maturely accept their differences, they can make for good friends. United by their Intuition preference, both types are mesmerized by the bigger picture and can spend countless hours discussing theoretical concepts. This stimulates their creativity and they can find great enjoyment in that. This connection can really bring them together and create a strong bond between the two. When they come together, they can easily come up with ideas on how to improve an existing situation. Both types are highly independent and need a great deal of freedom — which they are happy to give the other person, leading to further strengthening their relationship.

At Work

INFJs and ENTPs are natural idea generators. These types love discussing and brainstorming, and an ENTP will never shy away from challenging or debating a given suggestion. When working together, this team can bring a lot of creative solutions and innovation to the workplace. ENTPs are also adept at taking a logical approach to the problem at hand, which INFJs don’t entirely understand, but in return bring a lot of empathetic decision making to a situation. They are also very organized and enjoy planning. As they complement each other’s flaws in such a good way, there is little that these two can’t accomplish together.

INFJ and INTJ

These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have quite a lot of similarities between each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another.

Relationship 

INFJs and INTJs – The Mastermind (A.K.A Architect) – are very similar to one another, which unsurprisingly can lead them to a very harmonious relationship. Both types can be attracted to each other because of their strong interest in exploring possibilities and ideas. Both types are very independent and unconventional by nature. Even though INTJs are significantly more stoic than sensitive INFJs, they like showing affection for their significant other. Both sides of this pairing are very dedicated to self-improvement and will acknowledge that in each other, giving the necessary space for growth. The key to making this pairing work is to get a better understanding of the other’s cognitive functions and accept that they operate in a different way.

Friendship

As friends, an INFJ and INTJ are also very compatible. Because they are both introverts, they can spend their time together doing activities that require less energy. INFJs are sensitive dreamers, who sometimes need someone to bring them back to reality, which an INTJ isn’t afraid to do. They are honest friends who aren’t afraid to give their opinion. On the other hand, INTJs always appreciate a shift in perspective, which might show them a piece of the puzzle they had been missing — this is where INFJs are more than happy to help out.

At Work

Both INTJs and INFJs are planners and careful organizers. They are blessed with deep intuition, which aids them greatly in seeing the bigger picture and allows them to solve problems in a more comprehensive way. These qualities translate into both types being effective workers, who are responsible and like carrying out their tasks from start to finish. They aren’t ones to leave everything to others, but like to be active participants in their work activities. However, while INFJs like working from the background and don’t mind if their work goes unnoticed, INTJs demand that they take credit for their actions.

INFJ and INTP

These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have quite a lot of similarities between each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another.

Relationship 

A relationship between an INFJ and an INTP – The Logician – can offer a big sense of comfort. Both types are laid back and open minded, which results in neither wanting to control the other. This is very appreciated by both partners, as they value their individual freedom to explore whatever they find interesting. Both types like being involved in deep discussions and are likely to share the same type of humor. Problems in this couple can arise when they have to make a decision — in such cases the INFJ person is largely guided by their internal feelings, while an INTP takes a more impersonal and practical approach. This difference in methods can negatively affect the relationship, in cases where the partners aren’t mature enough to understand each other.

Friendship

INFJs and INTPs share a lot of similarities on how they see the world around them. They will often have the same ideas and react in the same way to a situation they both find themselves in. Their shared Introversion and Intuition make it easy for them to relate to each other and properly address their individual needs. The difference in their other preferences gives them just enough room to grow and learn from one another. They are similar enough to “speak the same language,” but different enough to enrich each other’s lives. Problems can arise when the more rational INTP can’t understand the emotional sensitivity of an INFJ — but despite these differences, they make for great friends.

At Work

In the workplace, INFJs and INTPs can be united by their mutual love for theorizing and discussing innovative solutions to problems. They are likely to appreciate each other’s take on a problem and use their varying perspectives as a source of inspiration. INTPs like being flexible in their work and being able to move things at their own pace. Despite INFJ’s Judging preference, they too dislike being micromanaged. It’s hard for these two types to fully comprehend this nuanced difference in their preferences, which in turn can lead to conflict. However, if they are mature enough, they can be stellar work companions.

INFJ and ENFJ

These two types fall in the “blue zone” of the compatibility chart. They share nearly identical world views, values, interests and life philosophy. They can also relate well to each other.

Relationship 

INFJs and ENFJs – The Guide (A.K.A Protagonist) – are very similar to one another — after all they are only one preference apart. They both seek a deep and meaningful relationship with their partner. Their shared idealism, thoughtfulness and sensitivity are very likely to bring them closer together. The combined idealism of these two types, however, could backfire, leading to both of them staying oblivious to any red flags in the relationship. Both INFJs and ENFJs are focused more on what could be and often choose to ignore any inconveniences that get in the way of this image. Overall, this relationship is prone to being harmonious and offering great comfort, with few conflicts occurring between the partners.

Friendship

Both INFJs and ENFJs are very friendly personality types and tend to prioritize their friendships. They are encouraging and supportive, possessing the ability to easily find a common ground with everyone. Their shared love for people and preference for deep and meaningful conversations will certainly bring them closer together. The difference between them as friends is that INFJs aren’t as demonstrative as ENFJs when it comes to showing their feelings. ENFJs don’t have any trouble with that and are quick to express their emotions, seeing no need to be as reserved as INFJs.

At Work

The many similarities between INFJs and ENFJs shine in the workplace as well. Both personality types have very strong personalities, oozing authenticity and maintaining their heightened ideals. They enjoy teamwork activities, however INFJs keep their reserved posture even then. INFJs enjoy working with others but aren’t overly enthusiastic and verbal about it. These types can work well together as they have similar interests and working styles, and are able to appreciate the boundaries each of them has.

INFJ and INFJ

These two types fall in the “blue zone” of the compatibility chart. They share nearly identical world views, values, interests and life philosophy. They can also relate well to each other.

Relationship 

The Sage’s relationship with their own type can make for both very good and very bad pairings. Since they share the same cognitive functions, it’s easy for them to instinctively understand the other’s feelings and where they are coming from. They share the same values, same energy levels and it can feel that they have found someone that just “gets” them. Keep in mind that the INFJ type is extremely idealistic — and this is where problems may arise. If both types feel the same way about topics that are important to them, then there would be no problem. If they are of differing opinions, however, both would be willing to protect these ideals, straining the relationship.

Friendship

Naturally, it’s easy for INFJs to make friends with other INFJs. They share similar soft-spokenness, idealism and rich imaginations. They will rarely be bored around one another and are on the same page about what constitutes fun. It’s natural that they can relate to each other to such a big extent, however this can also be a bad thing for their personal growth. Given they both share Se as an inferior function, they wouldn’t be able to help each other balance their individual Se out. This means that it’s likely that they could feed their mutual weaknesses. Nevertheless, INFJs easily find kindred spirits among one another and connections between them are instantaneous.

At Work

Putting INFJs to work with each other can be an interesting experience. They can easily turn into creative machines, building on each other’s suggestions and coming up with new concepts. They are empathetic, compassionate and diplomatic, finding it easy to build common ground with each other, as well as other coworkers. They complement their organizational skills nicely, however problems can arise if they feel differently about an important issue in the workplace. Their idealism can make them stubborn, which in turn can grow into passive aggressiveness, since INFJs don’t like conflict with anyone, let alone with each other.

INFJ and ENFP

These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have quite a lot of similarities between each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another.

Relationship 

Even though INFJs and ENFPs – The Optimist (A.K.A Campaigner) – don’t share any cognitive functions, they are a pairing with plenty of long-term potential. This is because they use their functions in exactly the same order — Intuition, Thinking, Feeling and Sensing. That means that they can constantly give each other unique perspectives in similar situations, leading to mutual fascination with one another. The INFJ-ENFP can be considered a perfect relationship, since in it both partners are nicely balanced, which can lead to plenty of potential for personal growth. It’s easy for both partners to see the blind spots in the other and push them to develop in that direction — with the signature NF empathy, of course.

Friendship

INFJs and ENFPs also make for great friends. Their inverted cognitive functions complement each other extremely well, which can often lead to INFJs suggesting solutions that someone with an ENFP personality would never think of on their own, and vice versa. An interesting characteristic that they both share is their ambivertness — meaning that while ENFPs are considered to be extraverts, they need their wind-down time, and introverted INFJs enjoy socializing to a certain extent. This makes it easy for them to tune into each other’s energy and enjoy doing virtually everything together. Both types prioritize their relationships so even if conflict occurs, they will do their part in resolving it quickly.

At Work

INFJs and ENFPs don’t have any problems working together. Again, this is a place where their inverted cognitive functions can work incredibly well together. These two types enjoy sharing ideas between each other and building up on them. INFJs can help keep ENFPs organized and inspire them to deliver their work in a more orderly manner. In return, ENFPs can push INFJs out of their comfort zone and motivate them to try new things or methods of work. Both types value harmony in the workplace and are very people oriented, placing empathy above logic and cold rationality.

INFJ and INFP

These two types fall in the “blue zone” of the compatibility chart. They share nearly identical world views, values, interests and life philosophy. They can also relate well to each other.

Relationship 

Even though INFJs and INFPs – The Mediator – don’t share any cognitive functions, they do have 3 shared preferences. This often leads to them having common values and an overall agreeability. It’s not unusual for this pairing to find deep understanding and comfort in their partner. Overall the relationship has a great potential for establishing a close and caring connection. Even though INFJs and INFPs can sometimes disagree on some topics, it’s likely that they think the same way about the important things in life. Their differences can be a good thing as well, since this allows them an opportunity to grow and learn from each other.

Friendship

INFJs and INFPs seem to have an almost spiritual bond between each other. Communication between them flows effortlessly and they share similar values and worldview. Their strong intuition can further bring them together, allowing for an unspoken understanding between the two types. Because of their natural connection, it’s often easy for one to put themselves in the position of the other and see where they are coming from. Overall, this friendship is likely to be harmonious and nurturing, for both sides.

At Work

INFJs and INFPs are often compatible when it comes to work as well. They are able to bring creative and uncommon solutions when a problem arises, and practice a strong sense of empathy in the workplace. It’s easy for them to cooperate and communicate with others, given their pacifistic natures. They prefer that their work involves patterns and concepts, rather than put emphasis on details. INFPs bring a flexible attitude to the workplace and can sometimes rebel against strict rules, while INFJs are more committed and dedicated, despite any regulations.