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Everything You Need to Know About the ENFJ Personality Type

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The ENFJ personality type, also referred to as The Guide, is famous for its empathetic, loving, and affectionate nature. It belongs to the NF Empath Temperament, making this type highly idealistic, with a deep desire to impact the world through positive change. They are fun, bubbly, and inspirational; their contagious optimism quickly wins the hearts of everyone around them.

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In the meanwhile, let’s find out everything there is to know about the ENFJ:

  • Who classifies as ENFJ?
  • What are their positive and negative traits?
  • What famous people share the ENFJ type?
  • What careers are suitable for an ENFJ?
  • How compatible are ENFJs with the rest of the personality types?

One of the 16 personality types, The Guide is approachable, wise, and easygoing. ENFJs recharge their battery by spending time with people, rather than by being alone. They truly value the opinion of others and are uniquely sensitive and empathetic. Extremely easy to trust, an ENFJ has no trouble breaking through the icy walls of many Introverted personalities. ENFJs feel loved when they are recognized for their unique ability to invoke positive change in everyone’s lives. Their Intuitive (I) preference makes ENFJs future-focused and aware of repetitive patterns. With a deep understanding of the human psyche, they have a sixth sense and know what is coming. They are Feelers, which means they make decisions through their emotional core. For workrelated tasks and routines, their head is in charge. Their Judging (J) preference allows them to be organized, scheduled, and structured in their careers.

ENFJs are born to be great leaders, with a deep sense of justice, they often fight to establish equality in society. Creatively and artistically inclined, they want to devote their lives to becoming an inspiration and example to others. The ENFJ personality is not one to ask for anything in return for their kindness. They are simply satisfied by observing the positive change they have brought about on a person.

“Sooner or later you’re going to realize, just as I did, that there’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.” — Morpheus, “The Matrix”  

ENFJs consider it their highest achievement if they’ve established meaningful connections with people- whether it is as life partners, mentors, friends, parents, or colleagues. They strive for emotional connection and feel most at home, being the providers of wisdom and understanding.

Key ENFJ Facts

ENFJs are one of the four types who fall in the NF Empath Temperament category. Intuitive and emotional, they feel a sense of duty to provoke goodness and create meaning in the world.

Here are some facts about the ENFJ personality type that will help you get to know them better:

  • ENFJs are very likely to agree for spontaneous short trips
  • ENFJs seem like they know everyone and can usually network pretty naturally
  • Most aspiring teachers to share this ENFJ personality type
  • The Guide is most likely to jump to rescue if someone is in trouble
  • ENFJs become closed off and hyper-emotional under a lot of pressure

What does ENFJ stand for?

If you haven’t dipped your toe into any content related to the 16 personalities concept, you’re probably going to wonder what does the abbreviation ‘ENFJ’ stands for.

The letters used to make up the name of this personality type ENFJ, stands for its 4 main Preferences. According to Carl Jung’s research, these preferences categorize the behavior of the people sharing this type. In the case of an ENFJ, these preferences are Extroversion (E), Introversion (I), Feeling (F), and Judging (J).

In addition, each type also has what is called Cognitive functions, these help explain how different personality types make decisions and process incoming information. Each type uses a maximum of 4 out of the total 8 functions, from most superior to their most inferior function.

Following are the preferences and functions that define the ENFJ personality type:

ENFJ Preferences

Let’s take a look at the four main functions that define the ENFJ type:

Types with the Extroversion (E) preference are focused on the outside world. They feel energized by social gatherings, and prefer to spend their time with other people, as opposed to being alone. They are usually bubbly, gregarious, fun and they don’t mind the company of strangers. Extroverted types also love being the center of attention and aren’t challenged by small talk and spontaneous social interactions.

People with the Intuition (N) preference are future-focused. They often fantasize about upcoming events and look for ways to optimize their surroundings, while thinking about what’s coming. They experience the world through patterns and recurring events and are quick to think of creative solutions to problems. They are comfortable with abstract concepts and ideas and aren’t detail-oriented.

Those with the Feeling (F) preference are guided by their emotions. They make decisions based on subjective views. They aren’t comfortable with confrontations or arguments and strive to resolve matters peacefully. They are empathetic about people’s feelings and have no trouble understanding what it’s like to wear someone else’s shoes for a day. Feelings are their core drive in life.

Judging (J) refers to the way people interact with the world outside of the self. This preference shouldn’t be mistaken for being judgmental. Instead, it means that people who share this preference appear to be more calculative and structured in life. They value order and organization, making extensive lists, creating schedules, and sticking to routines.

ENFJ Cognitive Functions

Along with the four specific Preferences, each personality type also engages with the world through four Cognitive Functions. These functions can either be Introverted or Extroverted, meaning they are either aimed inward or outward. The four functions have a hierarchy, depending on the frequency with which they are used. An ENFJ’s dominant function is Extroverted Feeling, and their auxiliary function is Introverted Intuition. The remaining two, Extroverted Sensing and Introverted Thinking are also used by the ENFJ personality, but less frequently.

Let’s take a look at how these Cognitive Functions are stacked:

  • Extroverted Feeling- Dominant Function

This is the function ENFJs use most often. They make decisions based on their feelings, which is also the reason ENFJs deeply value establishing an emotional connection with others. ENFJs are excellent at drawing others out and breaking through people’s barriers. Above everything, they are sensitive, emotional, and understanding.

  • Introverted Intuition- Auxiliary Function

Introverted Intuition comes second in their hierarchy. ENFJs process data through impressions, possibilities, and meanings. They are comfortable with metaphorical explanations, rather than hard facts. They have a sense of what is to come in the future and can subconsciously recall patterns. Compared to other personality types, The Guide has lesser trouble handling difficulties and processing information which is rather hard to understand.

  • Extroverted Sensing- Tertiary Function

ENFJs use this function to a lesser degree. Extroverted Sensing means types who share this function experience the world through their five senses. It is called “in the moment” living. It is classified as being present, processing life through what is seen, heard, smelled, what is tactile, and can be tasted.

  • Introverted Thinking- Inferior Function

Introverted Thinking is the least prominent function of the ENFJ personality type and is used rarely or in severe situations. This cognitive function has got to do with problem-solving through logic and reason. When using this function, ENFJs would analyze the information they receive and identify inconsistencies in order to find alternative solutions.

ENFJ Traits and Characteristics

You may now have a clear idea about what defines the ENFJ type. To further your understanding of The Guide, we are going to take a look at their most consistent characteristics, as well as potential strengths and weaknesses. However, if you can also dive deeper, take a look at our comprehensive and detailed article about ENFJ traits and characteristics.

Another helpful way of understanding what makes an ENFJ personality type different is drawing a parallel between them and the other 15 personality types. That way, you can compare their similarities and differences, whether they are able to get along or cause friction. We have written a detailed analysis of the topic, which can give you further insight into this personality type.

ENFJ Characteristics

ENFJs are often described as:

  • Idealistic
  • Sociable
  • Caring
  • Altruistic
  • Emotional
  • Sensitive
  • Gregarious
  • Enthusiastic
  • Peaceful
  • People-pleasers
  • Organized
  • Encouraging
  • Inspirational
  • Affectionate
  • Loyal
  • Leaders
  • Positive
  • Future-Focused
  • Complex
  • Approachable
  • Charismatic
  • Assertive

Strengths and Weaknesses

Like every other type, ENFJs possess a unique set of strengths and weaknesses. Some representatives of the type may demonstrate them to a higher or lower degree, but the following are thought to be most common between people sharing the type:


  • Approachable, kind, and friendly
  • Easy to talk to, excellent communicator
  • Affectionate, loyal, and affirming
  • Inspires positive change in others
  • Great leader and teacher
  • Punctual, committed, and organized


  • Hyperemotional
  • Pushover tendencies
  • Has trouble with too much responsibility
  • Tendency to manipulate
  • Tendency to smother

ENFJ Percentage

According to official data, out of all the 16 personality types, ENFJ is one of the rarest personality types, making up only 4% of all other types. Here are some interesting facts about the overall percentage of this type:

  • ENFJs are one of the least common NF Empath types, along with ENTJs.
  • 1 in every 40 males is an ENFJ (2.5% of all males) and 1 in every 18 females is an ENFJ (5.5% of all females).
  • There are significantly more ENFJ females than males (69%), with females outnumbering males more than 2 to 1. One reason for this divide is that females tend to be Feelers (F) while males are more often Thinkers (T).

The data is very insightful and helps us further understand the 16 types. It is expanding as and when fresh information and research is gathered and is supported by statistics and facts.

Other ENFJ Names

With 16 personalities theory becoming more popular in recent years, it is common to see different sources refer to each personality type with a unique nickname. This personalization can help you gain a better understanding of how this type is perceived by various researchers and participants who have taken the test. Here are some of the most common ENFJ labels:

  • Idealist Teacher, according to American psychologist and California State University professor David Kiersey
  • Envisioner Mentor, according to Linda Berens; human and organizational development practitioner
  • The Giver, according to Kendra Cherry; author, educational consultant, and speaker focused on helping students learn about psychology
  • The Great Communicator or Smooth-Talking Persuader, nicknamed by Otto Kroeger, bestselling author, and expert in the 16 personalities theory.
  • Harmonizers, according to Alan Brownsword; author of “Psychological Type: An Introduction”
  • The Protagonist, according to the 16 Personalities website

And finally:

  • The Compassionate Facilitator, according to the official 16 personalities website

BONUS: Here are some other ENFJ nicknames you may stumble upon when researching this personality type:

  • Pedagogue
  • Articulator
  • Empathetic Educator
  • The Peacekeeper
  • Supporter
  • BFF
  • Puppet Master
  • Developer
  • Principal
  • Motivator
  • Boxer
  • Guardian

Famous ENFJs Personalities

This personality type makes for some of the most enigmatic and inspirational celebrities. The easiest way to spot an ENFJ is by their genuine and altruistic nature. They are often social justice warriors or start their own charities. ENFJs all over the world want to help society for the better. Their Intuitive (I) preference makes them artistically gifted and hence, a great percentage of ENFJs are actors, famous critics, and journalists.

This personality type includes some of the most cunning and complex characters on film and TV. Many schemers and masterminds of countless TV shows have often been categorized as ENFJ. Even though this type shines brightly as leaders and protagonists, their devotion to the development of others usually puts them in the position of the guide archetype. You’ll find ENFJs in TV pop culture are usually teachers, headmasters, right hands to kings and queens, or parental figures to some protagonists. Of course, some of the most likable villains are also ENFJ types.

If you want to take a look at an extensive list of famous ENFJ celebrities, musicians, and characters, take a look at our Famous ENFJs article. Now let’s look at our favorite ENFJs in the following categories:

ENFJ Actors

ENFJs are gifted actors, due to their Extroverted (E), Feeling (F), and Intuitive (I) preferences. A combination of all these traits makes for great emotional capacity. As empaths, it’s easy for ENFJs to slip into different roles, and understand what it’s like to embody someone else entirely. ENFJs also enjoy being the center of attention and often have little-to-no trouble being on stage and performing. Their Judging (J) preferences also help them think sequentially, which is essential when memorizing lengthy scripts. Here are some of our favorite ENFJ actors:

  • Morgan Freeman, American actor (Seven, The Shawshank Redemption)
  • Reese Witherspoon, American actress (Legally Blonde, Dangerous Liaisons)
  • Sean Connery, Scottish actor (The Name of the Rose, Diamonds are Forever, Dr. No)
  • Helena Bonham Carter, British actress (Fight Club, Corpse Bride, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince)
  • Matthew McConaughey, American actor (Interstellar, Dallas Buyers Club, Contact)

ENFJ Writers

ENFJs are natural communicators in their writing and speech. Guided by the Extroverted Feeling function, they have no trouble touching the hearts of anyone keen on listening. As writers, they thrive as masterful manipulators, understanding that writing is just another powerful tool to influence a reader’s mood and imagination, transporting them in an entirely new world. Writing also lets ENFJs indulge in their creativity by slowing down and observing their surroundings. Some famous ENFJ writers include:

  • Matthieu Ricard, French writer (The Monk and the Philosopher)
  • Erich Fromm, Austrian writer and psychologist (The Art of Loving)
  • Maya Angelou, American poet (And Still I Rise, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings)
  • William Cullen Briant, American poet and journalist (Thanatopsis)
  • Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German writer and philosopher (Faust, Iphigenia in Tauris)

ENFJ Musicians

Music transcends all languages. Some of the most memorable musicians in the world are ENFJs. Much like writing, music empowers ENFJ to express their emotions without the restraint of language. It can also help them communicate abstract thought and ideas, while also having a piece of the under-the-spotlight benefits of acting. Here are five of the most famous ENFJ musicians:

  • Freddie Mercury, British singer and songwriter (Barcelona, Bohemian Rhapsody, Living on My Own)
  • Bono, Irish singer, and songwriter, U2 (With or Without You, One, Beautiful Day)
  • Demi Lovato, American singer (Sorry Not Sorry, Confident, Echame La Culpa)
  • Natasha Bedingfield, British singer and songwriter (Unwritten, These Words, Pocketful of Sunshine)
  • Katy Perry, American singer and songwriter (I Kissed a Girl, Roar, Dark Horse)

ENFJ Leaders

As we’ve mentioned before, ENFJs are part of the NF Temperament, making them influential visionaries and idealists. They strive for social justice, equality, and are willing to go out of their way to help those in need. They are charismatic and their added ability to verbalize their strong opinions are typical traits of a natural leader. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that some of the most famous ENFJs are notable politicians. Here are some you will certainly recognize:

  • Barack Obama, US President (2009-2017)
  • Tony Blair, UK Prime Minister (1997-2007)
  • Nelson Mandela, South African Revolutionary Leader, and President (1994-1999)
  • Mikhail Gorbachev, Soviet Premier (1985-1991)

ENFJ Fictional Characters

It wouldn’t be a complete list if we didn’t include some of the best on-screen portrayals of ENFJs. The masterminds who have shaped the behavior of tons of our favorite protagonists are The Guides. It goes to show just how good they are at being the mentors and guardians of our favorite heroes. This altruistic and slightly manipulative behavior of theirs puts the ENFJs behind the scenes of action, as opposed to directly under the spotlight. However, without these cunning characters, there is no doubt that a hero’s journey wouldn’t even exist. Here are some of the most impressive fictional ENFJs:

  • Albus Dumbledore, Harry Potter Franchise
  • Morpheus, The Matrix 
  • The Oracle, The Matrix
  • Clara Oswald, Doctor Who
  • Margaery Tyrell, Game of Thrones
  • Varys, Game of Thrones
  • Anna Karenina, Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy

ENFJ Compatibility

People are easily drawn to the charm and comfort of ENFJ individuals. This personality type values relationships more than anything, so it’s not surprising that they’re easy to talk to and get along with. Of course, there are always some exceptions to the rule. We are going to briefly walk you through the types that instantly click with ENFJs and the ones that will require some work.

The SJ Temperament is miles away from the desired ENFJ lifestyle, so it is a given that friction can occur between The Guide and the four Protector types – ESTJ, ESFJ, ISTJ, and ISFJ. Every relationship requires work on both ends and we’re not saying it is impossible to make connections with these types. ENFJs should in fact look for a partner with dominant Introverted Feeling to balance them out. The relationship compatibility of an ENFJ with another Extroverted type could also have great potential, however, the possibility of competitive behavior would also be high.

Regardless, ENFJs are quick at making a positive impression, they are loyal and committed, and easy to connect with. Let’s explore the different relationship dynamics they have with some of the personality types.


ENFJs proceed with caution when in the search for a romantic partner. Being part of the NF Empaths temperament, this personality type is likely to choose potential partners with consideration about the future of the relationship. They want a serious, committed, and strong partner by their side and don’t usually go for flings or one-night-stands. Even though they may have enjoyed brief spontaneous experiences in their youth, gradually, as they get older, they begin to understand it is not for them. They are romantics, with a tendency to wander in thoughts of the future, which is also the reason they look for a serious relationship. They feel most comfortable having a strong partner who is, above all else, their friend, and who can contribute to the stability of the relationship.

An ENFJ doesn’t need a lot to be happy, and they sincerely believe mutual understanding and communication are the true keys to a successful relationship. There are a few types that mix outstandingly well with ENFJs, providing material for mutual growth and development, as well as a harmonious relationship. They are:

  • ENFJ and INFJ

This combination is widely regarded as the most compatible choice. The INFJ personality type is The Sage among the 16 types and it’s easy for them to understand the priorities and worldviews of an ENFJ, because they think alike and view the world from the same angle. Not to mention both types share the NF Empaths temperament, making them good at intuitively understanding each other’s feelings. They are excellent at communicating and balance each other out in social situations. They also perfectly understand each other’s fear of conflict and manage to find peaceful and compromising solutions to challenges.

  • ENFJ and INFP

INFPs are hopeless romantics, strictly looking for the “right” person to complete them. They take the expression “my other half” quite literally, carrying the belief that their partner is a missing puzzle piece and only their true soulmate will make them whole. ENFJs understand this notion very well, sharing similar views about the ideal relationship. INFPs are driven by their Introverted Intuition preference, as they aim to find the “real thing” in their romantic endeavors. Sometimes they feel disheartened by their struggle to find their one true love. ENFJs are very good at proving such love can exist, but perhaps it is not some mythical and magical occurrence, but rather a relationship founded on clear and concise communication. ENFJs and INFPs can truly have a long and flourishing relationship.


As social butterflies, ENFJs do not struggle to make friends. They are popular, warm, outgoing, and care deeply for their friends. Their ability to always help a friend out is their most favorable trait. People often go to ENFJs for advice, for they are under the impression that ENFJs are bearers of sacred wisdom and truth. Sometimes, ENFJs can prioritize their friends to a fault, leaving them drained, highlighting their tendency of neglecting their personal needs. They also truly desire to be liked by everyone they meet, which of course, cannot always be the case, so they tend to blame themselves, without fully grasping that sometimes people just don’t get along. Either way, if ENFJs focus on what they have, rather than fixating on what they’re missing, they can experience true friendships with many of the personality types. The top three would be:

  • ENFJ and ENFP

ENFJs and ENFPs love to theorize and have deep conversations. They like to explore the depth of the human psyche and untangle mysterious connections. ENFPs love being number one, and ENFJs can truly support them when they feel low. They make much more sense as friends, rather than as romantic partners because ENFJ would normally insist on settling down, while ENFPs look for freedom and minimal restraint in relationships. That’s why their friendship can be truly beneficial – they can learn a lot about what they lack, and find the best way to improve each other. Their similar views on all kinds of subjects, including TV, media, art, and general interests make them the perfect hang-out buddies. They’re also capable of offering each other outside-the-box solutions to problems.

  • ENFJ and INTJ

INTJs have some noticeable difficulties upon meeting someone for the first time, as they can often come across as cold or emotionless. And the fact is, INTJs just aren’t bothered by what people think of them. They are The Strategists after all, and they know full well that expressing their emotions can be a powerful communication tool. They just don’t generally want to be read like an open book. They are extremely intelligent and an ENFJ would love to know what goes on behind their quiet exterior. When in each other’s private company, if INTJs feel they can trust ENFJs, they can share some of their deepest emotions. This further fuels the ENFJs curiosity, thinking that they have found a very complex and special friend that has no trouble confining in them. INTJs and ENFJs can form an incredible connection despite their surface-level differences.

  • ENFJ and ESFJ

These two types are largely connected by their shared desire to plan, schedule, and experience new adventures. They are considered excellent travel buddies and would, no doubt, make tons of friends on their multiple trips abroad. ESFJs are sincere and have remarkable social intelligence, always ready to step up for their friends. They like being part of large groups and enjoy outdoor social gatherings. ESFJs love the reciprocated support of ENFJs and they are energized by mutual appreciation.


As natural teachers and guides, ENFJs have the potential to become excellent parents. They could master the right combination of encouragement and parental responsibility. They want what is best for their children, and would go out of their way to provide quality education and home to their kids. They have very high standards for their children, which can sometimes feel like a lot of pressure to an adolescent. Overall, ENFJs strength is in understanding how to communicate the belief that their kids are meant for greatness, without enforcing helicopter parenting. ENFJs hope their children will be grateful for their support and should strive to direct their kids into mastering a profession, rather than focusing on what that profession actually is.

Partnering with a different personality type can help the visionary ENFJ control their high expectations, and the shared love and appreciation for the child should balance the relationship. Eventually, ENFJs will begin to understand that they need to let go of their idealistic views and let their children blossom in their own way. ENFJs need to learn a thing or two from their own kids and should try to give them the flexibility and freedom to fail. The only way a person can learn, after all, is when they’re allowed to make mistakes.

ENFJs at Work

ENFJs make a wonderful first impression on their employers – having gone over this time and time again, you can imagine how this responsible, dedicated, and punctual type is a desirable employee to any boss. ENFJs are good at maintaining productivity in a room, as they inspire their colleagues with their positivity and charm. They know how to infatuate people with their ideas of grandeur and they are excellent at executing step-by-step guides on how to reach goals. As aspiring teachers, they are usually given the task to train new staff or interview new employees. Their unique intuition enables them to read people’s character and motivations quickly. They would know who to hire to build a strong and motivated team because they have a great sense for ascertaining people’s personalities. Their affinity towards schedules, lists, and desire to complete tasks is also extremely beneficial for their desired profession.

All things considered, this personality type isn’t known for its attention to detail, so a profession that includes a lot of calculations and paperwork simply isn’t right for them. They also struggle with jobs that include emergencies and extreme situations, as well as executive decisions that could completely alter a person’s life. The pressure that comes with professions such as a doctor, police officer, or judge would result in a panic situation for an ENFJ. They would blame themselves if something went wrong and this could weigh on them for a very long time.

ENFJs should look for careers that stimulate their creativity and bring some good to the world. We have selected a few suitable career paths that could be intriguing and satisfactory to ENFJs.

Career Paths

Choosing a career can be difficult for anyone, let alone the talented and curious ENFJ. Sometimes, the weight of this very defining search for the right career can add even more pressure on an ENFJ. This future-focused personality type doesn’t like to waste their precious time on doing the wrong things, so it’s important for ENFJs to try out as many different hobbies as they can, while they are still young. This way, by the time they want to start specializing in their preferred field, they will have had a plethora of experience, developing a sound understanding of what they are good at and what they enjoy. Passion is essential to an ENFJ’s career, as monotonous and repetitive jobs would drain them of their creativity. It is important for them to like what they do, to help individuals or society with their calling, and to have some structure about their week. Simple to say – difficult to master.

We have done our best to give a few helpful examples of careers in different work fields where these key factors apply, providing the essential professional satisfaction for ENFJs.


What better way to positively influence both society and the individual than to teach people something valuable? ENFJs are natural mentors who have the unique ability to communicate efficiently with everyone, regardless of age and background. They wouldn’t mind speaking in front of a large crowd and can inspire their students to study even the most boring subjects, sharing their contagious passion. ENFJs are also excellent psychologists and would feel the most fulfilled helping with the wellbeing of others. Their excellent social skills, diplomacy, and empathy can be molded to suit a variation of careers in politics and human resources as well, so long as the focus remains on helping the community.

Here are some more examples in the education sector that would fit the ENFJ type:

  • Librarian
  • Trainer
  • Child psychologist
  • Counselor
  • Principal
  • Therapist

Art and Culture

There is no better way for an ENFJ personality type to feed their creative hunger than through a career in the arts. ENFJs have a great sense of aesthetics and know how to master a skill. Their uncanny empathy and intuition, accompanied by their fearlessness also make them excellent actors and stage performers. Their scheduled and sequential approach to work performance also helps with writing as a career choice. They are in their element when organizing events and managing staff and watching projects come to a full close. Some of the most interesting career choices are included below:

  • Actor/Actress
  • Curator
  • Musician
  • Event Coordinator
  • Film director
  • Photographer
  • Designer
  • Illustrator

Commercial Media

Jobs in Commercial Media, much like those in the Art and Culture sector can offer ENFJs the right mix of interpersonal communication, flexibility, and creativity. ENFJs aren’t particularly great with criticism, as we have already established, so jobs that allow them to be their own boss are especially desirable. The following careers align with the ENFJs excellent people skills and as natural communicators, they seem like a perfect match for this personality type.

Here are some examples of careers in Commercial Media:

  • Journalist
  • Critic
  • Talk-show host
  • Copywriter
  • Editor
  • Producer
  • PR Specialist

For more on jobs and education check out our article on ENFJ careers and College majors.

ENFJ Humor

You may have realized by now that ENFJs have no trouble being the life of the party. They are often the glue that keeps people together, so it seems only logical that ENFJs have mastered their sense of humor ages ago. Through their deep desire to avoid conflict, they might often resort to changing the tone of a conversation with a lighthearted joke. They often tend to ironize themselves to avoid being criticized by others. If they’re not careful they might “pull a Chandler”, and use jokes as a defense mechanism. Self-deprecating humor is fun to some degree, but eventually, people will start to notice this fault. ENFJs should focus on doing what they know best – cracking people up with those dry-humored jokes. They aren’t huge fans of “dad jokes” because they find word puns a little childish. ENFJs appreciate the sort of sense of humor that encourages outside-the-box thinking, a joke that doesn’t kick in the second it has been said, but rather one that takes a few moments to land.

Dry humor is a difficult one to master and is often used by stand-up comedians and it’s very popular in British television shows. It is a witty type of humor, often delivered with a straight face. ENFJs sometimes use it to provoke strangers and draw out their honest reactions and opinions.

ENFJ Jokes

This personality type loves situational and dry humor, so it won’t be a surprise if they find these jokes funny:

  •  What did the dehumidifier say to the towel? Nothing. Dehumidifiers can’t talk.
  • I went to a psychologist, it was weird. He kept holding up these ink paintings of my dad leaving when I was 5.
  • A guy walks into a bar and he says, “ouch.”

This is just a small example of what ENFJ humor can sound like, but if you want to learn more, make sure to check out our ENFJ Humor article.

ENFJ Quotes

ENFJs often look for inspiration all around because they strive to find people with similar views and outlooks on life. Inspirational quotes work especially well to spark their creativity as they can capture the essence of their thoughts. Here are a few quotes that align with the ENFJ personality type’s understanding of life:

“Love is always patient and kind; love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful… Love is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope and to endure whatever comes.” Paul the Apostle

“One of the tasks of true friendship is to listen compassionately and creatively to the hidden silences. Often secrets are not revealed in words, they lie concealed in the silence between the words or in the depth of what is unsayable between two people.” John O’Donohue

“Sometimes a word, a sentence, a poem, or a story, is so resonant, so right, it causes us to remember, at least for an instant, what substance we are really made from, and where is our true home.” Clarissa Pincola Estes


The Guide’s highest priority is establishing meaningful connections with others. This type is genuinely interested in human potential, and it strives to make a memorable impact on people’s lives. This authentic behavior and strong belief in the power of the people creates a charismatic and just leader, who can chaperone others through personal development, offering advice and support on their path. Their outstanding communication skills and genuine interest in people’s lives surround them with people who reciprocate their love and keep them grounded. An ENFJ’s greatest achievement is manifesting love, harmony, and understanding in all their relationships.