It’s no surprise that ENFJs are so popular among friends and family — after all, their Feeling, Intuitive Judging, and Extroverted nature is what makes their sense of humor so diverse. They really want to make everyone happy, and they often place their focus on others first and themselves second. Being useful to others and seeking harmony in their relationships is a top priority in their lives. They are “The Mentors” of the 16 MBTI personality types, so if they are deprived or cut off by the outside world, they can start feeling directionless. Simply put, it is important for ENFJs to be liked and to fit in, even if they don’t like to hear it.
Because it is so important for them to be liked, they find themselves laughing at jokes that aren’t that funny, courtesy to their Fe nature. They will often resort to making fun of themselves for comedic effect, gaining inspiration from their embarrassing experiences. You could say it’s a defense mechanism, but ENFJs are very intelligent and their Intuitive qualities help them find connections and patterns in their past that they can successfully use in day-to-day situations. This is where the self-deprecating sense of humor comes into play, as they enjoy making fun of themselves in social situations. Their humor is often targeted at society and its dysfunctionalities, as opposed to specific people, and it is rarely intended to be hurtful. Sometimes, the jokes are at the expense of a group of friends and that can be problematic. People don’t always remember that to ENFJs there’s a difference between being sarcastic and being mean, something not everyone understands as well as this Extroverted personality type.
ENFJs are sometimes also viewed as unintentionally flirtatious personalities, all because they are so nice and kind to everyone they meet. ENFJs might not even notice they’re doing it until a friend comes up and points it out!
In this article, we’ll focus on ENFJs’ dry sense of humor, and some inspirational quotes they might like. This can give you a greater idea of the expansive world of ENFJ personas. Let’s dive in!
As you might have guessed, each Myers-Briggs type has a unique sense of humor. This is due to multiple factors, such as different personality traits and preferences. If we could sum up an ENFJ’s sense of humor, it’s likely to be dry and deadpan, somewhat witty and sarcastic, with neutral delivery in contrast to the absurdity of the subject matter. Think Buster Keaton’s deadpan performances, or a more modern example like Bojack Horseman, for instance. As natural performers, ENFJs understand intuitively an audience’s response, and they are quick to analyze them. They know, for example, that sometimes audiences respond better if the joke is told with a straight face, rather than smiling.
Dry and deadpan humor can be spotted in British humor as well, full of sarcasm, innuendos, and puns. A fantastic example is John Cleese performing as Basil Fawlty in Fawlty Towers or the famous Mr. Bean, played by Rowan Atkinson.
ENFPs have a pretty similar sense of humor to ENFJs, but they take it up a notch and turn the dryness into dark tendencies. ENFJs can’t do that, because they care too much for other people’s well-being and so they don’t see much fun in the morbid. The main thing they have in common though is their desire to put a smile on people’s faces and the ability to enjoy and laugh at their own jokes. This is especially true of ENFJs, who can sometimes be the last ones laughing in the room.
ENFJs are not all that into terrible puns (a favorite of ENFPs) — instead, they prefer jokes that have a hidden agenda, something below the surface that can make them dig a little. Like comedian Steven Wright, who is a dry humor expert, said: “When everything is coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.”
Here are a few jokes ENFJs would enjoy:
- I called the wrong number today. I said, “Hello, is Joey there?” A woman answered and she said, “Yes, he is.” And I said, “Can I speak to him please?” She said, “No, he can’t talk right now, he’s only two months old.” I said, “Alright, I’ll wait.”
- What’s the difference between a hippo and a zippo? A hippo’s really heavy and a zippo’s a little lighter.
- What’s red and smells like blue paint? Red paint.
- The Dalai Lama walks into a pizza shop and says, “Can you make me one with everything?”
- I went to a psychologist, it was weird. He kept holding up these ink paintings of my dad leaving when I was 5.
ENFJs love to have a laugh and giggle, so we decided to search all corners of the internet to deliver some of the best ENFJ-related memes (and if you don’t know what memes are, come on, it’s about time you find out!).
We have listed below a number of platforms that hold ENFJ communities, buzzing with conversations on this Myers-Briggs type. And of course, we started with the bottomless pit that is Reddit.
Reddit is a platform that allows users to post content based on their interests, or to start conversations on all manner of subjects. They’re separated into threads, called subreddits, for separate topics and there are even a few on ENFJs — here’s one celebrating their personality type, you can check it out right now: ENFJ <3 You can also find chat rooms and join the conversation yourselves.
If Instagram and Facebook had a child, they’d probably call it Pinterest. Instead of a wall, here we have a pinboard, and any user can create one on a preferred subject. So it’s natural to find memes and information about ENFJs on here as well. It would mainly consist of aesthetics related to ENFJs, for example, ENFJ Wallpaper.
Tumblr is a platform that allows you to create a personal blog for free which became very popular because it encouraged communities and connected people from all around the world. Through hashtags like #ENFJ, people can find other blogs featuring their desired content and comment, follow, and engage with the posts.
ENFJs love finding someone they can relate to; it makes them feel like they are included and part of a community. They are also very well organized and hard-working, so they welcome anything that helps them stay motivated. Here are a few inspirational quotes that will make them stay on top of their productivity:
- “When things get tough, this is what you should do: Make good art.” Neil Gaiman
- “Productivity isn’t about cramming as much work as you can into one day.” Matt D’Avella
- “If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” Bruce Lee
- “Your mind is for having ideas, not holding them.” David Allen
- “I think it’s a crime to say you are bored when time is so precious and there are so many things to do in life: read, learn, watch.” Karl Lagerfeld
- “A man who procrastinates in his choosing will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance.” Hunter S. Thompson
- “Procrastination makes easy things hard, hard things harder.” Mason Cooley
- “You can’t use up creativity, the more you use, the more you have.” Oscar Wilde
- “The scariest moment is always just before you start.” Stephen King
- “My goal is no longer to get more done, but rather to have less to do.” Francine Jay
Quotes by famous ENFJ people
And finally, what is more inspiring than reading some of the best inspirational quotes by famous ENFJs? Perhaps finding out who they are — we wrote a whole article on famous ENFJ celebrities and fictional characters which you can check out. If you just want to focus on the quotes, here they are:
- “If one man can destroy everything, why can’t one girl change it?” Malala Yousafzai
- “The best way to guarantee a loss is to quit.” Morgan Freeman
- “There is still time to change the road you’re on.” Robert Plant
- “Fear causes hesitation, and hesitation will cause your worst fears to come true.” Partick Swayze
- “I have no regrets. If you regret things, you’re sort of stepping backwards. I’m a believer in going forwards.” Kate Winslet