The ENTJ personality type (also called The General) is cheerful, positive, and ambitious. In this article, we’ll focus on ENTJs’ relationships with the other personality types and how The General compares to them. We’ll take a closer look at what the ENTJ partner is like, as well as what’s the best match for these pragmatic and self-reliant people. We’ll also uncover what types make the best friends for an ENTJ, and what types have a good work dynamic with them.
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ENTJ Relationships and Dating
Just like everything else in life, ENTJs take their relationships seriously. At first, they won’t strike as the romantic type, but if they truly love someone they can feel enthusiastic about the relationship. And ENTJs take their commitments seriously. If there’s anything ENTJs love, it’s a good challenge, big or small; they’re not ones to give up easily. Similar to other aspects of their life, ENTJs like to be the leader in the relationship and take on responsibility for making things work. Therefore, they appreciate relationships that promote constant growth and learning. So if there’s anything that will have them packing a bag, it’s the feeling that their relationship has stagnated past the point of recovery.
In a relationship, ENTJs are committed, loyal and consistent. They’re straightforward and direct with their intentions and know exactly what they want. They also have certain expectations of their partner, which are sometimes too high. They’re often dominating and can sometimes be overpowering. It’s hard for them to acknowledge their partner’s needs and, on top of that, they’re not the best at expressing their own emotions. Although they can be caring and lovable, in many cases they come across as arrogant and insensitive simply because they don’t know how to communicate their feelings.
To sum it up, being in a relationship with an ENTJ is a rollercoaster of emotions. If you’re an ENTJ or if you’ve ever had to deal with an ENTJ partner, you know that it can be heaven and hell at the same time.
ENTJ Dating
In the early stages of dating, ENTJs are incredibly confident and self-assured. They aren’t afraid to approach someone they feel a connection with, and they won’t be sitting by the bar waiting for the other person to notice them. Exactly the opposite – The General will confidently slide over and start a conversation. As extroverts, ENTJs aren’t afraid to express themselves verbally. Thanks to their excellent communication skills, ENTJs will be quick to start a conversation and they rarely leave anything to the imagination.
Further in the relationship, they’re not the ones to give up easily. As we all know, every relationship has its ups and downs. But unlike some types, such as the ISTP, ENTJs will fight until the end. If they’re in love, they’ll be consistent. They like to take initiative and don’t give up without a fight. Like the emblematic leader and a classical ENTJ case Winston Churchill said:
“I like things to happen. And if they don’t happen I make them happen.”
For a more in-depth analysis, you can read our article on famous ENTJs.
So now that we’ve established how this logical and ambitious type acts in a relationship, let’s explore what the best match is for ENTJs, and how they compare to the other personality types.
ENTJ Best Match
Being in a relationship with an ENTJ means constant growth, development, and learning. But not everyone can handle such a demanding partner. So what is the best match for ENTJs? What type of people does The General feel most attracted to? And who can handle their constant need for improvement? Let’s find out.
ENTJs belong to the NT analyzer temperament, which means that they are goal-oriented and logical. The N stands for Intuition and the T stands for Thinking. They are analytical, logical, and ambitious, with leadership tendencies. Furthermore, they’re naturally attracted to personalities that share the same functions.
Simply put, ENTJs are attracted to people who are more focused on objective reasoning without relying too much on their feelings – such as the INTP. INTP’s Introverted and Thinking functions create a positive environment for a relationship between these two types to evolve. For some personalities, being too similar is negative. But for ENTJs and INTPs, their similar functions, views, and interests create a perfect match.
ENTJs and INTPs would not only make great friends but their relationship could evolve in a healthy romantic way. Nevertheless, both types have their strengths and weaknesses, so it’s all up to them to figure out a way to embrace their common traits while balancing their differences.
ENTJ Compatibility
ENTJs are charismatic, optimistic, and confident individuals. It’s easy for other people to feel attracted to them. It’s hard to not like The General, especially in social situations where they thrive. But ENTJs are picky, so the real question is what kind of people are they drawn to? And what other types, besides INTP, would match the ENTJs personality type? Let’s find out.
ENTJ Compatibility Chart
Blue – types that are most similar to ENTJs in terms of values, interests, and life philosophy.
Green – types that are similar to ENTJs but have intriguing differences, which can produce a healthy relationship with plenty of personality growth opportunities.
Yellow – types that are somewhat similar to ENTJs and could be compatible with them, but some work will be needed to make things work.
Red – types that are poles apart from ENTJs and are likely to clash with their personality. Relationships between these types will require a lot of work.
ENTJ and INTJ
These two types fall in the “blue zone” of the compatibility chart. They share nearly identical world views, values, interests, and life philosophies. They can also relate well to each other.
Relationship
ENTJs and INTJs (also known as The Mastermind) are similar in terms of functions. When it comes to relationships, many would say that opposites attract. Therefore, the fact that one thrives in social situations and the other is focused on their internal world could be a plus. In this case, it’s important to balance each other out, to develop a healthy and loving relationship.
Friendship
A friendship between an ENTJ and an INTJ is an interesting one. They’re likely to share common interests and a similar mindset and they feel comfortable with each other. However, ENTJs are extremely active and are energized by communication and interaction. In contrast, INTJs prefer to have a small circle of friends and feel uncomfortable around too many people. This might cause some disagreements in their friendship, especially when it comes to spending their free time together.
At Work
Both ENTJs and INTJs are ambitious and determined when it comes to their work. They have well-defined goals and strive for constant improvement. In the workplace, ENTJs and INTJs could get along. However, ENTJs heavily count on communication and teamwork, while INTJs are rather quiet and prefer to work alone. Therefore, if they manage to overcome their communication boundaries, they could be a dream team.
ENTJ and ESTJ
These two types fall in the “blue zone” of the compatibility chart. They share nearly identical world views, values, interests, and life philosophies. They can also relate well to each other.
Relationship
The ESTJ personality type (also known as The Administrator) tends to be practical, logical, confident, and hard working. ESTJs are individuals who value traditions, rules, and security. It’s possible for ENTJs and ESTJs to find common ground since they share some important functions. The key elements that support a romantic relationship between these two types are communication and verbal expression. In a relationship, ENTJs and ESTJs would be straightforward with each other and would clearly define their expectations early on in the relationship.
Friendship
ENTJs and ESTJs usually get along fine, especially if they have common interests to talk about. The main difference between them is that ESTJs are respectful towards authority and people above them in the hierarchy, while ENTJs like to play by their own rules. This could create some tension between them, in which case they must both compromise.
At Work
Both ENTJs and ESTJs are Extroverted, Thinking and Judging personalities, meaning they prefer to spend time around others, base decisions on logical thinking, and follow set plans. Both types are charismatic and organized, which creates a positive working environment. They also balance each other out, since ENTJs bring creative problem solving, while ESTJs bring attention to detail. When it comes to working together they’ll get the job done.
ENTJ and ESFJ
These two types fall in the “yellow zone” of the compatibility chart. They have some similarities in their characters, but problems may occur as they don’t balance each other out and may decide to ignore potential issues.
Relationship
ESFJs are empathetic, warm-hearted, and supportive individuals. They care about other people’s feelings and provide good emotional support. Although there are some differences between ENTJs and ESFJs, these types could have a meaningful relationship. ENTJs are likely to fall for the practical-thinking, grounded ESTJs. On the other hand, ENTJs should learn how to be more emotionally available and empathetic.
Friendship
ESFJs are social butterflies and are usually surrounded by people all the time. Furthermore, they take their relationships with people seriously and put great emphasis on friendships. In a friendship, ESFJs are giving, caring, and supportive, and look for people who make them feel appreciated. But they can’t handle criticism well and need constant encouragement. ENTJs and ESFJs usually get along well especially if the ENTJ expresses their appreciation for the ESFJ’s giving and selfless nature.
At Work
ENTJs and ESFJs are drawn to different careers. ENTJ has a developed sense of entrepreneurship and possesses leadership qualities that are heavily expressed in the workplace. ESFJs are drawn to professions that involve social work and helping others. However, if brought to work together, ENTJs and ESFJs could be a dream team. ENTJs bring objective thinking and creative new ideas, while ESFJs bring attention to detail. In this case, balancing and embracing their differences could be a plus.
ENTJ and ISTJ
These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have a lot of similarities between each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another.
Relationship
ENTJs and ISTJs are both Thinking and Judging personalities, which means that they share some common traits. They’re both responsible, organized, and take life seriously. Both types are realistic and take a logical approach to achieve their goals. That’s why a romantic relationship between them could work out well. However, although they have some things in common, ENTJs and ISTJs could also have contradicting views on life. ISTJs put great emphasis on rules and traditions, while ENTJs are more self-directed.
Friendship
ISTJs are Introverted and prefer to have a small circle of friends, while ENTJs are Extroverted and get energized by large social gatherings. If an ENTJ and an ISTJ are friends, it could be hard for them to agree on how to spend their time together. Both types tend to get along best with friends who are similar to themselves. So if they find common ground they could have a meaningful friendship.
At Work
Both ENTJs and ISTJs take work seriously and it’s sometimes hard for them to rest. They’re both organized and know how to achieve their goals efficiently. However, their working styles are different. ENTJs possess strong leadership qualities and like to be in control. ISTJs prefer to work alone and are more focused on managing their internal world. While ENTJs bring fresh new ideas to the table, ISTJs feel the most comfortable in positions that involve following stable structures.
ENTJ and ISFJ
These two personality types fall in the “red zone” of the compatibility chart. They don’t have much in common and their widely contrasting views on life can cause friction.
Relationship
ISFJ (or The Defender) is an introverted, hard-working, and sensitive personality type. They approach things in a practical way, which is a common trait between them and ENTJs. However, they don’t usually get along and a romantic relationship between them could be toxic. ENTJs don’t know how to express their feelings, while ISFJs are in touch with their emotions. ENTJs sometimes communicate in a way that could hurt the fragile ISFJ’s id, even if done unintentionally. If these two types are in a relationship they should be well aware of their differences and consider their weaknesses.
Friendship
ENTJs and ISFJs usually don’t get along too well. People say that opposites attract, but these types are just too different to even try and be friends. Nevertheless, if the ENTJ tries to be more supportive of the ISFJ this could build trust between them. On the other hand, if the ISFJ shares their thoughts more directly, it will be easier for the ENTJ to understand them.
At Work
ENTJs are confident and self-assured, especially in the workplace. But if they happen to work alongside an ISFJ they should be careful with how they express themselves. ENTJs are born leaders and their leadership style is direct and unfiltered. This could be an issue for the sensitive ISFJ. Also, ISFJs avoid confrontation at all costs, while ENTJs are argumentative and sometimes even find pleasure in arguing.
ENTJ and ESTP
These two types fall in the “yellow zone” of the compatibility chart. They have some similarities in their characters, but problems may occur as they don’t balance each other out and may decide to ignore potential issues.
Relationship
ESTPs (or The Daredevil) are exciting, energetic, and bold people who know how to enjoy life. They’re spontaneous and rarely follow any structures. In that sense, ENTJs are similar to ESTPs, since they’re both extroverted and action-oriented people. However, a relationship between them isn’t always a good idea. And the main reason for that is ESTPs’ inability to maintain a healthy relationship. ESTPs have a problem with commitment so when it comes to relationships, they often don’t know how to treat their partner right. On the other hand, ENTJs like stability and they want their partner to be honest with them.
Friendship
In their personal life, both types like to be around people and they feel their best when they’re given the chance to express themselves verbally. ESTPs are the life of the party and constantly seek connections with people. ENTJs are also outgoing and love being surrounded by people. Therefore, although a romantic relationship between these two types could be challenging, a friendship is actually a great idea. ESTPs could teach ENTJs how to enjoy the finer things in life, while ESTPs could learn a thing or two about committing to a friendship.
At Work
ENTJs are hard-working, goal-oriented people, who know exactly what they want out of their professional life. They also prefer to follow a set schedule and they feel the safest when they know what’s expected of them. And that’s why they could work well with ESTPs. ESTPs know how to handle stress and unexpected situations, which is something that ENTJs could learn to do better. Also, ENTJs could help ESTPs to be more organized, which is highly valued when it comes to being professional.
ENTJ and ESFP
These two personality types fall in the “red zone” of the compatibility chart. They don’t have much in common and their widely contrasting views on life can cause friction.
Relationship
ESFPs are the life of the party – fun, positive, energetic, and optimistic. This type is called The Entertainer for a reason. However, a romantic relationship between an ENTJ and an ESFP isn’t always a good idea. While ESFPs prefer to focus on the here-and-now and rarely think about the future, ENTJs are future-oriented and concentrate on the bigger picture. ENTJs are organized and don’t feel comfortable when they have to improvise. ESFPs are exactly the opposite – they often pursue last-minute opportunities, easily adapting to change. ENTJs find it difficult to express their emotions and are often seen as arrogant in their expression. Also, it’s hard for ESFPs to honor their commitments which creates additional tension between them.
Friendship
ESFPs love to have fun and know how to enjoy life. They have a constant need for new experiences and are often the center of attention. In that sense, ENTJs aren’t so different from them. Both types like to socialize and thrive in social situations. However, they both enjoy the spotlight and when it comes to sharing it neither wants to back down. If they find common ground, ENTJs and ESFPs could be good friends, however, they must respect and accept their differences.
At Work
At this point, you can probably guess that ENTJs and ESFPs wouldn’t work together well. And that’s not far from the truth. These two types are drawn to different careers and are unlikely to end up in the same workplace. ENTJs are business people, focused on leadership, organization, and improvement. ESFPs dislike routines and are easily bored by structured processes. When working together ESFPs and ENTJs should be careful, since it’s possible for conflicts to appear.
ENTJ and ISTP
These two types fall in the “yellow zone” of the compatibility chart. They have some similarities in their characters, but problems may occur as they don’t balance each other out and may decide to ignore potential issues.
Relationship
The ISTP personality type (also known as The Tinkerer) is full of confident but quiet individuals, who might appear mysterious. Since they’re introverted and dislike social gatherings, ISTPs feel uncomfortable when they have to socialize more than they want to. ENTJs are extroverts and get energized by interacting with others. The ENTJ should understand that ISTPs need their personal space, especially early in dating.
Friendship
ISTPs like to be spontaneous and enjoy new experiences. They’re risk-takers and enjoy living in the here and now. On the other hand, ENTJs can sometimes be stiff, due to their need to follow a set schedule. Therefore, a friendship between these two types could be beneficial for both. ENTJs could learn how to have some fun spontaneously, while the ISTP could learn a thing or two about thinking before doing.
At Work
At work, ISTPs and ENTJs have different approaches. ISTPs like to work alone and according to their own schedule. ENTJs respect order and tend to be bossy. So when the freedom-loving ISTP meets The General, some sparks could fly around. Nevertheless, they’re not as different as they seem. Both types bring rational, logical thinking to the table and, if they set their intentions straight, they could work well together.
ENTJ and ISFP
These two personality types fall in the “red zone” in the compatibility chart. They don’t have much in common and their widely contrasting views on life can cause friction.
Relationship
People with the ISFP personality type are focused on keeping their options open and they prefer to not react immediately to situations. In this case, ISFPs may appear lazy or even slow-moving. When in a relationship, eventually the ENTJ will start to criticize that behavior more and more. ENTJs usually don’t have much understanding and tolerance for messiness and inefficiency. The ENTJ might find themselves dissatisfied with a lack of challenge from the ISFP. However, ISFPs are often slow to show their affection with words. This means that they will not be emotionally demanding, and that is one thing ENTJs can appreciate.
Friendship
ENTJs like their opinions to be challenged, and they need a lot of intellectual stimulation through debates and discussion. The ISFP will usually see a debate as an attack and try to steer clear of conflict. However, it is not all that black in their friendship. As friends, ENTJs and ISFPs could get along and learn from their differences. ISFPs are often caring and considerate, which are qualities that don’t come naturally to the ENTJs.
At Work
ISFPs are reserved individuals who value their personal space. They prefer to work alone and appreciate jobs that involve personal freedom and autonomy. In the workplace, ISFPs care more about personal concerns rather than objective, logical information. This could cause some issues if they find themselves working with an ENTJ.
ENTJs vs ENTP
These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have a lot of similarities between each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another.
Relationship
The ENTP personality type (also known as The Debater) includes outgoing, fun, and communicative individuals. These people like the spotlight and they want to experience life to the fullest. ENTPs and ENTJs usually get along well, due to their similarities. For both types, it’s important that their partner shares their view on life. They’re both argumentative and communicate in a logical way, and it’s also hard for both of them to be emotionally available. This means that neither of them will demand much attention, which is beneficial for the relationship.
Friendship
Both ENTJs and ENTPs are fun-loving, charismatic, and expressive. Being friends with each other comes naturally to them since they approach life in the same way. When it comes to spending their time together, they would probably just go to a bar or a party where they can socialize with other people as well. Nevertheless, both ENTPs and ENTJs are argumentative and enjoy debates. So when things get heated, conflict can arise.
At Work
ENTPs are ambitious and have the need to develop professionally and intellectually. However, unlike the ENTJs, ENTPs dislike following routines and they count on improvisation and chance. ENTPs get easily bored from mundane tasks and they don’t appreciate being micromanaged.
ENTJ and INTP
These two types fall in the “blue zone” of the compatibility chart. They share nearly identical world views, values, interests, and life philosophies. They can also relate well to each other.
Relationship
The INTP personality type (also known as The Logician) is full of quiet, thoughtful, and independent people. At first, it might seem like ENTJs and INTPs don’t have much in common, however, that’s not the case. INTPs and ENTJs are both NT temperament types which means that they are driven by Intuition and Perceiving preferences. In a relationship, they have trouble expressing their feelings, which might lead to communication issues. Nevertheless, if the INTP is given the space and freedom to function according to their own rules, they will thrive and grow more trusting of the ENTJ.
Friendship
INTPs prefer to spend their time with a few of their closest people and rarely have the need to socialize in large crowds. They avoid big social gatherings and hate being forced into unnecessary conversations. On the other hand, ENTJs are energized by spending time with different people. So it might get challenging at times to maintain a friendship where the two people want different things.
At Work
INTPs and ENFJs may be different, but they work well in balancing each other. INTPs tend to be flexible and good at thinking “outside of the box,” but they’re also not the best at following schedules. For ENTJs structure is important so they need to learn how to play by the INTP rules if they want to achieve harmony in the workplace. At the same time, INTPs should get out of their comfort zone and work toward maintaining a level of organization.
ENTJ and ENFJ
These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have a lot of similarities between each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another.
Relationship
The ENFJ personality type (or The Guide) is known as being the strongest “people person” out of all the personality types. ENFJs are empathetic, affectionate, and warm and have a need to constantly connect with people. Unlike some extroverts, who interact with people because they want to be the center of attention, ENFJs are caring and want to inspire others to be the best version of themselves. In a relationship, ENTJs should be supportive and encouraging to the ENFJs, since they’re also sensitive and need to feel appreciated.
Friendship
ENTJs and ENFJs usually make good friends and they rarely engage in conflict. ENTJs are more argumentative and sometimes they tend to be too aggressive in expressing their opinions. But most of the time it’s not personal so the ENFJ shouldn’t take it like it is. Also, ENFJs aren’t called The Guide for anything! They could have a positive influence on the ENTJ’s life if allowed.
At Work
At work, both types are creative, organized, and hard-working. ENFJs are more focused on people’s emotions and well-being, so they bring empathetic decision-making. At the same time, ENTJs offer logical thinking and objective choices. ENTJs and ENFJs could be a dream team not despite, but because, of their differences.
ENTJ and ENFP
These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have a lot of similarities between each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another.
Relationship
The ENFP personality type (also known as The Optimist) is positive, charismatic, and knows how to enjoy life. People have the tendency to like ENFPs, due to their ability to understand others’ emotions. It’s important for ENFPs to acknowledge and communicate their feelings, especially when they’re in a relationship. However, if their partner happens to be an ENTJ this could be a challenge. ENTJs aren’t the best at expressing their emotions, but this gives them the potential to grow. Being with somebody who can teach you how to be more in touch with yourself is a chance that must be taken seriously.
Friendship
ENFPs and ENTJs are both Extroverted types. This part of their personality, coupled with the ENFP’s unstoppable need to have fun, could result in a positive and adventurous friendship. ENTJs could learn how to loosen up and not take life too seriously, while ENFP should take greater control over their emotions.
At Work
ENTJs and ENFPs both bring charisma, objective thinking, and creative solutions to the workplace. However, while ENTJs have a rational mindset, ENFPs are more empathetic and flexible. ENFPs also find it challenging to commit to long-term goals so if they’re not taking their tasks seriously, conflicts could arise.
ENTJ and INFJ
These two types fall in the “yellow zone” of the compatibility chart. They have some similarities in their characters, but problems may occur as they don’t balance each other out and may decide to ignore potential issues.
Relationship
People with the INFJ personality type (also known as The Sage) are introverted and empathetic idealists, who believe they can make the world a better place. They’re sensitive and reserved, but at the same time caring and supportive of their closest friends. ENTJs are extroverted and logical thinkers who avoid emotional phrasing and express themselves logically. A relationship between them could be challenging.
Friendship
In a friendship, ENTJs should be patient with the INFJ, giving them the space to be alone when needed. The INFJs should still communicate their feelings and emotions but they should try to do it in a more logical manner so that the ENTJ could understand. ENTJs are sometimes insensitive and arrogant in their wording which could hurt the overly sensitive INFJ.
At Work
ENTJs and INFJs have different views on life which are also projected into the professional environment. INFJs offer conscientiousness and empathetic decision-making to the workplace. They can teach the ENTJs the impact their decisions may have on others. The ENTJs could help the INFJs to grow thicker skin and to handle confrontation better.
ENTJ and INFP
These two personality types fall in the “red zone” of the compatibility chart. They don’t have much in common and their widely contrasting views on life can cause friction.
Relationship
The INFP personality type (also known as The Mediator) can sometimes seem detached and distant. It’s hard to get to know them, and they prefer to spend time alone. They’re deep thinkers and often contemplate the meaning of life. However, they strive for developing deep relationships and are in touch with their emotions. If INFPs are in a relationship with ENTJs, some challenges could occur. INFPs should be direct, honest, and logical when addressing ENTJs, and they should try to speak their language when it comes to communicating their needs.
Friendship
ENTJs should understand that not everybody feeds off social interaction. And this is exactly the case with INFPs, who need to be alone in order to recharge. A friendship between these two types requires compromise on both sides. INFPs should avoid being overly emotional and the ENTJs should communicate their side calmly, without interrupting.
At Work
INFPs are responsible and goal-oriented when it comes to their work. Nevertheless, they also prefer to play by their own rules and follow their own schedule. ENTJs are usually the leader at work so it’s up to them to be patient with the INFPs and allow them to do things their own way. On the other hand, INFPs should understand that there are some things they must overcome in order to have an efficient working environment.
ENTJ and ENTJ
These two types fall in the “blue zone” of the compatibility chart. They share nearly identical world views, values, interests, and life philosophies. They can also relate well to each other.
Relationship
A relationship between an ENTJ and another ENTJ could be a blessing and a curse. The fact that they’re so alike helps them to understand their partner’s needs. However, people with this personality type sometimes struggle to express their emotional needs and expectations. Further into the relationship, when things get more serious, they should communicate their intentions directly and logically, considering the other person’s viewpoints. ENTJs usually grow to have a mature and healthy relationship, but they need to work together to find mutually beneficial solutions.
Friendship
In a friendship, ENTJs enjoy having long conversations and like to debate. ENTJs are likely to trust other ENTJs who are consistent, driven, and enthusiastic about accomplishing major goals. They need to see that their friends aren’t floating through life meaninglessly. The fact that they relate well to each other helps them to grow a meaningful and open friendship.
At Work
ENTJs are ambitious when it comes to careers. Some might even say that it’s more important for them to develop in their professional rather than their personal life. ENTJs get along with other ENTJs in the workplace since they’re both likely to express commitment. They can help each other to work toward mutual goals.