The wonderful thing about Enneagram personality typing is its versatility. The Enneagram system has been a benefit for the human resources departments of corporations—it allows for a prospective employee to be assessed for departmental suitability or it may assist an existing employee in career counseling. Also, mental healthcare professionals may use the Enneagram to aid their clients through personality-related issues. Finally, another area where the system works and people refer to is relationships and compatibility between two different people (types).
This article addresses the strengths and weaknesses encountered in a relationship between two Enneagram Sevens. This is a fascinating couple but there are several things they should watch out for. Let’s talk about them.
Type 7 Compatibility With Type 7
The ultimate outcome of Enneagram Type 7 compatibility with Type 7 may depend on factors such as the dominant wing of each Seven partner, their state of integration or disintegration, their attachment styles, and the dyadic effect result.
Using the data from 324 couples, a Walden university dissertation identified that men and women display both choice and compatibility differently in matching partners by personality.
Compatibility Score
It may seem that with a score of 91%, Enneagram Type 7 compatibility with Type 7 is steadfast. However, it would be prudent to consider the extraneous factors before coming to a conclusion.
EnneaDyads
Some believe that EnneaDyads may not impact the value of a relationship match. Others are of the opinion that only Allied and Integrative categories may influence the outcome. It’s also possible that success is found in the following order
- Ally
- Woman is 7 and man is 6/Man is 7 and woman is 8
- Disintegrative
- Woman is 7 and man is 5/Man is 7 and woman is 1
- Integrative
- Woman is 7 and man is 1/Man is 7 and woman is 5
- Matching
- Woman and man are both 7
- Shadow
- Woman is 7 and man is 8/Man is 7 and woman is 6
- Non-related
- Either the man or woman is 7 and their partner is 2, 3, 4, or 9
Anxiety and Avoidance in Attachment Styles
Relationships that have the greatest success rates are those formed with two partners of secure attachment styles. However, some couples may “earn” secure attachments when sharing a growth or stress experience. A little behind, in terms of success rates, are mismatched (one secure and one insecure) attachment styles. This means that partners of insecure attachment styles may look to the dyadic effect for answers.
With double Sevens, both partners have insecure attachment styles—low anxiety and high avoidance.
Wings, Growth, and Stress
Sixes and Eights form the possible dominant wings of Sevens, and neither have secure attachment styles.
Another aspect to consider in Enneagram Type 7 compatibility with Type 7 is whether the individuals involved are in a state of personal growth or stress—the individual will then take on aspects from their integration types.
What Each Type Brings to the Relationship
Sevens bring interesting characteristics to the table of Enneagram Type 7 compatibility with Type 7.
Enneagram Type 7: The Enthusiast
Sevens are expressly the fun-loving, adventure-seeking, happy-go-lucky Enneagram types. Their cheerful, self-indulgent, and buoyant personalities may easily become bored in monotonous careers or relationships. They’re often curious about new or exciting opportunities. Sevens may not follow expected values but are more likely to convince others to engage in their exciting ideas.
They may not be overly concerned with the beliefs, traditions, or welfare of others, and this could be due to their upbeat and idealistic outlook. They tend not to worry about rejection—they may lose interest in the commitment before the other party, and are often on the lookout for an escape, anyway.
Enneagram Wing Contribution
Even two Sevens will not show the same traits. Enneagram Type 7 compatibility with Type 7 may change due to the dominant wing of each individual, and its level of influence.
Enneagram Type 7w6 and Type 7w8
Sevens with a dominant Six wing may be slightly less brazen in their approach to life. They could second-guess themselves and the motives of others.
Six’s attachment style: insecure
If the dominant wing of Seven is Eight, they will probably still have an audacious tendency, however, they could be more confrontational and driven to succeed.
Eight’s attachment style: insecure
Positives of This Pairing
If Sevens share common interests, their exuberant enjoyment could forge a bond between the double Seven couple. They’ll easily make friends and probably be that happy couple that everyone talks about.
Since neither will place, or likes, boundaries, the individual Sevens will offer a freedom that few partners would extend. And due to this, each Seven might find the mystery surrounding their independent partner intriguing. The trend may continue in their mutual dislikes. For example, neither will criticize the other, since they’re equally averse to reproval.
These multitaskers want everything done yesterday, so they can move on to new and fun things, so in a double Seven household, chores will probably get done quickly—and only since there is no way of getting around them.
Potential Issues
In Enneagram Type 7 compatibility with Type 7, double Sevens might dislike their qualities rebounded from their partner. While Sevens may disengage once boredom sets in, their predilection for hope and certainty could mean that they might expect their partner to take up the slack. Neither will.
While Sevens may not be impatient in temperament, they might crave regular changes to their circumstances and this will probably extend to their commitments.
Sevens could seek anything new—from adventures to opportunities. If their interests don’t coalesce, the couple may spend less and less time together. And if things become uncomfortable, since both partners tend to escape disagreeable situations, they might not try to fight to remain in the relationship.
Conclusion
Enneagram Type 7 compatibility with Type 7 presents an astounding pairing value. This is largely due to the congruous aspects of double Sevens. While neither may incline toward commitment, once they do, their relationship may be equally satisfying to both partners.
The dominant wings of each party may slightly adjust how the couple interacts, but their core parallelisms may remain. The interests of each individual may impact whether double Sevens spend time together or apart.
However, sensible and honest communication is key to this romantic pairing. It could be a match that offers a transcendent development gateway for both partners. And the Enneagram is the perfect personality tool to aid in this type of growth.
To discover your Enneagram type, complete the Enneagram Personality Test.