Establishing your (and your partner’s) Enneagram personality type is the beginning of determining the potential of certain matches. However, since Enneagram focuses on growth and development, it provides ways to help improve existing and potential relationships. In this way, the likelihood increases in creating a successful and even beautiful Enneagram pairing.
This article analyzes the positives and negatives of Enneagram Type 2 compatibility with Type 6. It explores how they would likely interact, the possibly amazing aspects of their relationship, and the potential issues they may face.
Type 2 Compatibility With Type 6
The compatibility score is estimated without taking gender into account, as well as on the basic personality of Twos and Sixes. So, when bringing wings, growth (integration), and stress (disintegration) into the analysis of Enneagram Type 2 compatibility with Type 6, the outlook may change significantly—either to the benefit or detriment of the relationship.
Compatibility Score
The score for Enneagram Type 2 compatibility with Type 6 comes in at 19%, though it is not the lowest-ranking match for Twos. It’s prudent to note that men and women may choose partners differently. A dissertation done at Walden university determines that, based on the results of 324 couples, secure or insecure attachment styles play a significant role in the level of compatibility, and EnneaDyads slightly less.
EnneaDyads
EnneaDyads have some effect on relationship success, especially when one or both partners show insecure attachment styles. In EnneaDyads, the relationship potential is best in the following order:
- Ally
- Woman is 2 and man is 1/man is 2 and woman is 3
- Woman is 6 and man is 5/man is 6 and woman is 7
- Disintegrative
- Woman is 2 and man is 4/man is 2 and woman is 8
- Woman is 6 and man is 9/man is 6 and woman is 3
- Integrative
- Woman is 2 and man is 8/man is 2 and woman is 4
- Woman is 6 and man is 3/man is 6 and woman is 9
- Matching
- Woman and man are both 2
- Woman and man are both 6
- Shadow
- Woman is 2 and man is 3/man is 2 and woman is 1
- Woman is 6 and man is 7/man is 6 and woman is 5
- Non-related
- Either the man or woman is 2 and their partner is 5,6,7,9
- Either the man or woman is 6 and their partner is 1,2,4,8
Anxiety and Avoidance in Attachment Styles
Secure attachment styles in both partners seems to bring about the most favorable relationships. The success rate is slightly lower when only one partner shows a secure attachment style. However, some insecure attachment styles find success. Dyadic types may affect this outcome.
While Twos exhibit high anxiety and low avoidance, the attachment style in Sixes is high anxiety and high avoidance—both insecure attachment styles.
Wings, Growth, and Stress
With the wings of Twos and Sixes being Ones, Threes, Fives, and Sevens, two possible secure attachment styles may be present—if the Two has a strong One or Three wing. However, depending on the strength of the wings in the Two in question. Theoretically, this may improve the Enneagram Type 2 compatibility with Type 6.
An earned secure attachment style may arise in any individual during phases of personal development—even if their growth type does not have a secure attachment style. This would move the Enneagram type along their line of integration.
In Twos, the best traits of Fours would influence their personality, and Sixes integrate into Nines. During times of stress, Twos would disintegrate into Eights and Sixes to Threes.
What Each Type Brings to the Relationship
Enneagram Type 2 compatibility with Type 6, the personality traits of both Twos and Sixes will play a part in determining the success of the relationship.
Enneagram Type 2: The Helper
Kind, warmhearted, and always ready to offer encouragement and aid, Twos enjoy one-on-one relationships. They find joy in assessing the needs of others, as this is how they express their love. But to find complete fulfillment, they need others to have some form of appreciation in return.
Enneagram Type 6: The loyalist
Aware of the world around them, Sixes may be self-doubting, skeptical, and anticipate problems. This makes them great during a crisis, and their ability to sense the feelings of people makes them likable and trustworthy.
Enneagram Wing Contribution
Depending on how strongly the wings affect the Enneagram type, the individual’s personality might slightly adjust. This may have a positive or negative effect on the relationship’s potential.
Enneagram Type 2w1, Type 2w3, Type 6w5, and Type 6w7
For 2w1 Enneagrams, Ones may contribute their hard-working ethic, structured approach, and desire for improved outcomes.
One’s attachment style: secure.
With the drive to succeed of Threes, 2w3 Enneagrams may bring a polished presentation and competitive streak to Twos.
Three’s attachment style: secure.
Fives offer 6w5 Enneagrams, logic, and a hunger for knowledge. Their general emotional detachment from the world could ease the fear and suspicion of Sixes as they stand back and observe.
Five’s attachment style: insecure.
In 6w7 Enneagrams, the Seven wing could add a desire to explore the unknown and experience the pleasures of life. This is contrasting behavior for cautious, self-sacrificing Sixes.
Seven’s attachment style: insecure.
Positives of This Pairing
If in a relationship, Twos will probably enjoy giving insecure Sixes the reassurance they so need, and Sixes will trust and shower Twos with grateful affection. Together, they will most likely devote themselves to each other. They’re both friendly and engaging, so they may find themselves in deep conversations. And, since both find pleasure in helping the less fortunate, they may unite in community projects, and this could draw them closer.
By observing their Two partners, Sixes may learn to engage with people rather than ideas, and open themselves up to their mate. And Twos might learn that they don’t always need to give in order to be loved because a patient Six will give them all the love they need expecting nothing in return.
Potential Issues
With Twos being more extroverted, they may get frustrated with introverted Sixes for needing to spend so much time on internal questioning. Twos may believe they’ve done something wrong when Sixes simply spend time in their heads.
The fear and skepticism in Sixes could be a source of contention for Twos, who, full of warmth, generosity, and empathy, give without restraint. They may disrespect Sixes for their moodiness and negativity.
Sixes may see Twos as having so little self-worth that they grow desperate in their attempts to please. And the more Sixes push them away, the more they’ll try to please.
Conclusion
If Twos encourage Sixes through their anxieties, they will probably gain the much-needed appreciation of their Six partners. In turn, Sixes should accept any help Twos offer. In this way, Twos gain a sense of self-worth.
Sixes may help Twos by encouraging them to take time for themselves. While Twos enjoy giving, they can find it fatiguing. When their Six partners observe this, Twos will see it as appreciation.
Enneagram Type 2 compatibility with Type 6 will benefit from considering Enneagram is about growth, personally and within relationships. And in becoming the best version of themselves, people are more likely to find peace and contentment with their place in the world.
To discover your Enneagram type, complete the Enneagram Personality Test.