Introverted (I), Intuitive (N), Feeling (F) and Judging (J)
The INFJ personality type is nicknamed the "Confidant" and belongs to the NF Visionary temperament. INFJs are complex, deep and intensely private. Their life's mission is to develop and guide others. Personal growth drives them and anything short of that pursuit is meaningless to them. They are passionate and devoted to the causes they believe in. INFJs live their life with a great sense of purpose.
INFJs direct their energy inward. They are energized by spending time alone and have a few close friends. They are independent and deliberate. Confidants are highly Intuitive and are deep thinkers. Their thought process is complex and abstract. They are idealistic and future-focused. INFJs are Feelers that make decisions with their heart. They are empathetic, warm and caring. INFJs are often quick at their tasks and enjoy finishing them. They seek closure. Confidants lives are scheduled and structured. They have a controlled and organized nature.
Confidants define love in terms of emotional intimacy and shared values. They have a great need for connection while at the same time they yearn for solitude. They enjoy one-on-one interaction where they can focus on the other person and really get to know them. Of all the 16 types, INFJs are the most private and the hardest to get to know. Although they enjoy being a mystery, they also long to be known and understood.
"A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave." — Mohandas Gandhi
INFJs love to learn. Their whole existence is wrapped around growth. They are on a constant quest to improve and untangle more questions. They are gifted at deciphering the connections and profound meaning of things. They are interested in theoretical and abstract concepts that can be applied to people and relationships.
Describing an INFJ
INFJs can often be described with these words. They commonly posess the following strengths and weaknesses.
Characteristic of an INFJ
- Good at listening
- Excellent verbal and written communication skills
- Warm, affirming and encouraging
- Honors commitments
- Has trouble with conflict
- Difficulty receiving criticism
- Holds back
- INFJs make up 1% of all 16 personality types. INFJs are the most rare of all personality types. Introversion, iNtuition and Feeling are less common as dominant preferences than their opposites.
- 1 in every 200 males is an INFJ (0.5% of all males). 1 in every 66 females is an INFJ (1.5% of all females). Male INFJs are the least common type-gender combination (along with female INTJs).
- There are significantly more female INFJs than male, with females outnumbering males by 3 to 1. One reason there are more female INFJs is that females tend to be Feelers (F) while males are more often Thinkers (T).
Introversion is characterized by a preference to focus on the inside world. As introverts, INFJs are energized by spending time alone or with a small, familiar group. They find large group gatherings draining because they seek depth instead of breadth of relationships. Like other introverts, INFJs process information internally. They are often great listeners.
As Feeling people, INFJs are subjective. They make decisions based on their principles and values. They are ruled by their heart instead of their head. INFJs judge situations and others based on their feelings and extenuating circumstances. They seek to please others and want to be appreciated. They value harmony and empathy.
People with Intuition live in the future. They are immersed in the world of possibilities. They process information through patterns and impressions. As Intuitives, INFJs value inspiration and imagination. They gather knowledge by reading between the lines. Their abstract nature attracts them toward deep ideas, concepts and metaphors. They can see the "big picture".
As Judging people, INFJs think sequentially. They value order and organization. Their lives are scheduled and structured. INFJs seek closure and enjoy completing tasks. They take deadlines seriously. They work then they play. The Judging preference does not mean judgmental. Judging refers to how a person deals with day-to-day activities.
INFJ Cognitive Functions
Every person engages the world through four Cognitive Functions. The INFJ's primary function is Introverted Intuition and secondary is Extraverted Feeling.
Introverted Intuition (Primary)
INFJs use this function most often. With Intuition (N), INFJs process data through impressions, possibilities and meanings. Introverted Intuition enables Confidants to have a sense about the future. It is the ability to grasp a pattern or plan. Information that is commonly hard to understand and dissect is more easily processed through Introverted Intuition.
Extraverted Feeling (Secondary)
INFJs use of this function is somewhat high. When Feeling (F), INFJs make decisions based on feelings. The Extraverted Feeling function allows INFJs to tune their behavior to the needs of others. Is it the ability to relate and the desire to connect with others with warmth and consideration as well as draw others out and responds to expressed or unexpressed needs.
Introverted Thinking (Tertiary)
INFJs use this function but to a lesser degree. While Thinking (T), Confidants make decisions based on logic and reason. The Introverted Thinking function enables them to categorize and analyze information that they receive. It is the ability to identify inconsistencies and know how things work as well the ability to solve problems.
Extraverted Sensing (Least)
INFJs use this function least of the four. Through Sensing (S), INFJs process data with their five senses. The Extraverted Sensing function allows them to process life through their experiences. It is being aware of what is seen, smelled, touched, heard and tasted. It is being energized by experience and living "in the moment."
INFJs and Work
INFJs seek work that is meaningful and creates growth. They are industrious and quietly enthusiastic. While they are highly idealistic and visionary, they are also task-oriented and intense. They must have goals and are very structured about achieving them. Confidants have extremely high expectations of themselves and sometimes others.
INFJ Career Matches
People with the INFJ personality type may find satisfaction with the following careers which tend to match well with their Confidant personality.
- Social Worker
- Educational Consultant
- Child Care
- Child Development
- Church Worker
- Medical Doctor
- Alternative Medicine
- Human Resources
- Martin Van BurenAmerican President
- Nathaniel HawthorneNovelist
- NathanProphet of Israel
- AristophanesGreek Dramatist
- Robert BurnsPoet
- Fanny CrosbyHymn Writer
- Shirley Temple BlackActress
- Michael LandonActor, Writer, Director
- Tom SelleckActor
- Oprah WinfreyMedia Proprietor, Actress
- Billy CrystalActor, Comedian
- Garry TrudeauCartoonist (Doonesbury)
- Nelson MandelaPresident of South Africa
- Mel GibsonActor, Filmmaker
- Carrie FisherActress, Screenwriter, Novelist
- Nicole KidmanActress
- Jamie FoxxActor, Musician, Comedian
- Adam SandlerActor, Comedian
- Anthony KiedisSinger (Red Hot Chili Peppers)
- Amelie PoulainAmelie
- Dr. Yuri ZhivagoDoctor Zhivago
- Luke SkywalkerStar Wars
- Jane EyreJane Eyre (Novel)
- Lisa SimpsonThe Simpsons
- TinmanThe Wizard of Oz
- Kermit the FrogThe Muppets
- George Ashley WilkesGone with the Wind
- John LockeLost
- Joe HackettWings
- Frodo BagginsLord of the Rings
- Jack O'NeillStargate
INFJs are dreamers whose relational genius and caring nature inspire others to achieve great things. They are catalysts for growth in others. The INFJ's greatest contribution is their ability to connect with the essence of others and to identify their strengths.